boy/girlfriends

#1 10-26-2002, 10:39 PM

So, I was wondering, do you ever had a boy/girlfriend who was a pain in the ass?
Lol.

I mean, like making you feel bounded , not letting you talking or making friends with anybody (not even over the internet), controling each and every step you take and screwinng with your privacy (specially internet, using your name, icq and e-mail, or even loggin in toonzone as you)?

I'd reeaaally like to know, and if the answer is yes, what happend, how was it, and if you felt after breaking up (like if you had done the right thing - if you did break up...), even if you really liked him/her.

Chris Sanders MSX · #2 10-26-2002, 10:57 PM

Well for a while. I was that guy. I have serious jelousy issues. It's never been that I didn't want my girl to have a life or that I meant to invade her privacy it's just that I've been burned before and it made hard for me to trust females.

But after a few good experiences, I learned better but I still have the jelosy issues but I usually keep stuff to myself. I don't even like it when another guy talks to my girl, online or offline. I used to get mad about stuff like this and let it be known but now I know it's a little nuts so I just don't say anything.

meatwad945 · #3 10-26-2002, 11:00 PM

nope because i havent had one

**Nightflower** · #4 10-26-2002, 11:42 PM

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Originally posted by Chris Sanders MSX
Well for a while. I was that guy. I have serious jelousy issues. It's never been that I didn't want my girl to have a life or that I meant to invade her privacy it's just that I've been burned before and it made hard for me to trust females.

But after a few good experiences, I learned better but I still have the jelosy issues but I usually keep stuff to myself. I don't even like it when another guy talks to my girl, online or offline. I used to get mad about stuff like this and let it be known but now I know it's a little nuts so I just don't say anything.

Yeah, I'm kinda like that -_-' What's worse about me is that I know I'm being nuts, but I do it anyway.

How's that for mysterious, insane girl for you?:P

Seriously, I think in certain aspects, I am a bit controlling and unfair...long sticky story...not going to go there. Like Chris, I think a lot of it has to do with me not being able to trust as easily as before.

BTW, Flavia, if you're speaking from a personal experience...that's not normal if a guy does that (Um, especially regarding the Internet stuff, and using your user IDs).

#5 10-27-2002, 12:13 AM

Yes, it is a personal experience

sometime I think I can't breath.

Galaxia · #6 10-27-2002, 12:28 AM

Well, my BF can be a pain in the ass sometimes, but he'd never invade my privacy (log on AIM as my name, check my e-mail, etc).

Leaping Larry Jojo · #7 10-27-2002, 01:07 AM

I think if anyone is experiencing this, they should seriously have a talk with their partner about it. Shutting someone off from their friends and life is the first sign of a bad future relationship, possibly even an abusive one. Tread carefully.

IMO, of course.

#8 10-27-2002, 01:21 AM

That's the problem, I was always a comunicative person, but he just doesn't listen. He's that chauvinist kind of guy and everthing. He thinks he knows what he's doing and nothing enters his stupid head! Grrrr. I mean, in a short time I can already see myself screaming and advancing towards him.

his last one:
"You can't talk so friendly with those guys of toonzone"
"What you think you're doing blinking* to everybody? You think you can flert with anybody like this?"
*by blinking he means :

, post this emotion...

I mean, the guy is sick

BrendaBat · #9 10-27-2002, 01:46 AM

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I think if anyone is experiencing this, they should seriously have a talk with their partner about it. Shutting someone off from their friends and life is the first sign of a bad future relationship, possibly even an abusive one. Tread carefully.

Leaping Larry JoJo is right. Controlling men often turn abusive. I think you should dump this guy NOW before his behavior gets worse! No one has the right to tell you when you can see your friends and when you can use the internet!!
From what you said in your first post, this guy sounds intorrible. Find someone else, Flavia. You diserve better.

#10 10-27-2002, 01:53 AM

Yes, I know you guys are right, they get abusive. I know because he already is. The "before worse things happen" it's past.

He doesn't like how I act, I can't understand why he doesn't listen to me. He start that machuvinist thing and I start to scream. Than thing start to get worse, you see...

I feel extra stupid now

thiago · #11 10-27-2002, 01:12 AM

#12 10-27-2002, 01:21 AM

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Originally posted by thiago

You always twist things when you want to. They don't have anything to do with what is happening.

**Weatherman** · #13 10-27-2002, 01:23 AM

Dump him...NOW! And make sure you have some friends around when you go out for awhile. it sounds like he would try and do something if you did dumo him, and I don't want to see that happen. Just get rid of that bum. lLet him date the airhead he seems to really want, not someone as gifted as you.

**TimTwoFace** · #14 10-27-2002, 01:33 AM

Hmmm...I can't say that I've ever been in an abusive relationship like this. I was in a relationship with a girl at one point that I would label as "emotionally abusive", but never controlling like this. She couldn't control me for her own personal career-oriented gains and therefore I dumped her.

Either way, it's an emotional burden. No relationship should be THAT controlling. Break up with this guy ASAP if you feel there is less good in it than bad. That's a pretty easy judgement call.

-Tim

#15 10-27-2002, 01:45 AM

What you said about less good in it than bad made me think.
I believe it got this crazy because in the start there was more good than bad... so I let it pass, and then, again and again. Until the present situation.

That is unbearable. I can't stand another humiliating scene in public.

*look down*

**Weatherman** · #16 10-27-2002, 02:15 AM

Ohh dear........well, if you don't want to talk about it in public, that's ok, but I don't think anyone else here has ICQ. We all use AIM, YIM or MSM. Still, please, do yourself a big favor, DUMP HIM!! FAST! I don't like where this "relationship" seems to be headed, fast. Best of luck to you......*makes owrried noises*

#17 10-27-2002, 02:23 AM

uh-oh, no, I didn't mean here in toonzone, because I'm feeling better talking about it. What I mean is having those scenes in the middle of street or something in real life you know, like he pusshing and pulling me hard!!!

I fell to the ground not only once, and his excuse is that I answer it (why, if I don't give it back he'll hurt me MORE!)

These are all things that I always considered sad... I always said "those poor women... but they are so stupid to accept them back!" And now it's happening to me

batboy2001 · #18 10-27-2002, 09:39 AM

Hmmm, might I inquire why you like this guy? I mean from what you said above, he sounds like a jerkass. He doesn't own you.... Doesn't seem worth it.

Steve Jester · #19 10-27-2002, 10:14 AM

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Originally posted by Weatherman
Dump him...NOW! And make sure you have some friends around when you go out for awhile. it sounds like he would try and do something if you did dumo him, and I don't want to see that happen. Just get rid of that bum. lLet him date the airhead he seems to really want, not someone as gifted as you.

Agreed, and this from a guy's POV.

1) Dump him because he's starting to be abusive. Abusive boyfriends need a good dumping.

2) I also agree woth the bring some friends, preferably those that are from the local Rugby team (if you lived in the US I'd sugest guys from the football team) because he likely to go off on you.

3) Make sure it's the good Rugby players

they play dirty.

BTW, Flavia, is thiago your boyfriend?

#20 10-27-2002, 10:54 AM

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BTW, Flavia, is thiago your boyfriend?

Yes

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Hmmm, might I inquire why you like this guy?

Simple: He past the first two years being the perfect guy, and then, in th last 5 months or so, he strated to change but in a very sutil away. Things got this way very slowly...

That's why it took me so long to be so drastic in my acts, because I belived he would change.

*look to the amount of homework to do*
Grrr, yesteday I told him I wasn't going to see him, Because I needed to go to a friends house and get the homework o do. He said I wasn't going alone and that I should waite for him (I needed to use the subway) Then, nowing the way he acts, I said "yeah, ok, just come early because I have a lot of homework to do and I need to start it today". We got there onlu 8 o'clock and I could do a thing. He said "uh, why didn't you went alone?duh"

jerk