Leave Me Alone

[Duke Psychology]

just a simple question: when someone says "leave me alone" what do you do? do you actually leave them alone or should you try and figure out what's wrong with them?

[Crimson_lynx]

hmmmm that is a good question...

If its a good friend or a loved one...you DONT leave them alone, just be nice and careing (even if you dont wanna be)

If you dont really know them...or care about them...leave em be, not worth the hassle.



-Crimson

[Outlander00]

I dunno... from personal experience, I have learned the following:

When its a female, it depends on how upset they are. If they are really upset, then its best to leave them alone a little bit to calm down before trying to be there for them, otherwise just be there for them (and not push them).

When its a male, Its best to leave them be.

[Parallax]

I usually bother them untill they tell me what's wrong. Mostly, I just bother them.

[Pilmedium]

I think the person, regardless of any details, should just be left alone. Problems can only be resolved in a decent manner when the person is willing to cooperate. Trying to talk to the person often increases anger and/or stress.

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[DianaGohan]

I would give the person the same respect that I would want if I asked to be left alone. Of course, sometimes I may try to ask them about it, but only if I really feel I could help actually help them with they're problem and not make them feel worse.

[zmanjz]

This is something that truly depends on the circumstances surrounding the situation, and how much you know.

if you NEED to know more and the only is to ask them what's going on, I say do it.

If someone says that because they are sick of someone or being harassed. then they should be left alone.

There is not one single answer, as any correct answer would require a good understanding of the people and situations involved.


So, I guess my answer is: If you can't tell on your own, then leave them alone. (but it may be a good idea to seek the counsel of someone who also knows the person in question.)

[Bubblegum Girl]

I would ask why does the guy want to be left alone and keep following that person around until he stops acting like a jerk. But is something I would never do.

[Calhoun07]

When I say "Leave me alone" I mean leave me the frig alone! I am quite clear with my feelings when I do express them. So if somebody tells me to leave me alone, I usually do just that.

[BabySealClubber]

I think when a person says "leave me alone" it usually means they aren't yet ready to talk about whatever may be bothering them. Give them time and the opportunity to get into a better mood and they might even come to you. Forcing the issue can make that person clam up even tighter and make them resent you for prying/nagging.

Time heals all wounds and moods.

[TimTwoFace]

In my time, I've learned that, unforunately, when someone tells you to leave them alone, then do so. Usually they're quite upset and don't feel like opening up about everything; most people I know are rather private about their feelings, and if they do open up, it's just a rant about something or other.

Then again, there are some people that NEED that extra push to tell everyone what's on their minds when they're upset - I fall into that category.

The best route if the one demanded solitude is close to you, pry once, get turned down, then say that you're there whenever they're ready, and show that you truly care and are concerned for how they feel.

If it's not someone you know, just leave 'em be - why would they open up to a perfect stranger if they wouldn't to a close friend? But on the same note, still be nice about it. There's no sense in being crude.

-Tim

[Leaping Larry Jojo]

If you don't want to get clobbered, I suggest you leave me alone. That's my attitude. ;)