I need some advice...

[SlyBoy]

I saw this cute girl in Algebra class today, and I want to see if she can become my girlfriend, but I need your guys advice. How should I approach her? How should I introduce myself, and what do I do afterwards?

[BLACKHEART]

Hello my name is [insert your name here] and I was wondering if you would like to go out sometime? Maybe I could take you out to eat and we could catch a movie?

[SlyBoy]

Hello my name is [insert your name here] and I was wondering if you would like to go out sometime? Maybe I could take you out to eat and we could catch a movie?
Hmmm... I don't really know if I should say that. And you do realize I'm 14, right?

[The Falcon]

Hmmm... I don't really know if I should say that. And you do realize I'm 14, right?
only fourteen? ok...

"hello. my name is [insert name]. after school, do you want to come to my house and play my new atari? then we can go to the movies. my mom (or dad) will drive us. we can sit in the back seat in an awkward silence and look out our respective windows. when we get to the movies, my mom (or dad) will probably sit between us"

Falcon

[SlyBoy]

only fourteen? ok...

"hello. my name is [insert name]. after school, do you want to come to my house and play my new atari? then we can go to the movies. my mom (or dad) will drive us. we can sit in the back seat in an awkward silence and look out our respective windows. when we get to the movies, my mom (or dad) will probably sit between us"

Falcon
I dunno... She obviously won't be interested in my classic video games, and I don't want to take her out to the movies and stuff like that until I know her better. Plus, there aren't any good movies out right now IMO.

[Stewie]

You need a way to strike up a conversation.
In an offhand way, tell a joke. Don't even say it directly to her, just say it to yourself in a way that she will be one of the few people to hear it.
If your first contact with her is you making her laugh (or at least smile) you're on the right road.

For the first little while that you know her just make chit chat. Talk about school and classes. Then gradually get to know her. Find out what interests she has, especially ones that you share.
Don't let out right away that you like her. You're just being "friendly".
Then when you've built up a little rapport, ask her to do something sometime.

Just don't stay on the friendship path too long or you will be stuck there.

[ZorBrak]

Crack a joke. Or make fun of her but make sure she knows you're playin....it works :) .

[Terminatah]

I saw this cute girl in Algebra class today, and I want to see if she can become my girlfriendI don't want to take her out to the movies and stuff like that until I know her better.You're killin me, Smalls.

-Terminatah

[Stewie]

You're killin me, Smalls.

-Terminatah
Haa!! That's beautiful. Maybe it's just 2:18 in morning, but that's freakin' hilarious.

[Cogliostro]

I saw this cute girl in Algebra class today, and I want to see if she can become my girlfriend, but I need your guys advice. How should I approach her? How should I introduce myself, and what do I do afterwards?

Just be yourself and go with the flow and if it dont go then just say oh, there will be mo'

Seriously just be yourself and if she dont like you or things dont happen then oh well it wasn't meant to be, just cause you want someone as a bf/gf doesnt mean its going to happen...There will be another girl...eventually.

[Leaping Larry Jojo]

Geez, you don't just go around with your chick radar and then go *beep* *beep* "I want HER as my girlfriend!"

Get to know her first. Then decide if you want to pursue her romantically. But don't just pick out some random cute girl and say "Her! I want her as my girlfriend RIGHT NOW!"

If that were the case, I'd have picked up hundreds of women while commuting in the subway by now.

[Leaping Larry Jojo]

There will be another girl...eventually.

LOL. Tell that to the 40 year old male virgin I used to work with.

[Bryangst]

Just as previous people have said, be yourself, or strike up some kind of conversation. It's worked once or twice for me.

[Slash Tompson]

Not such a sly boy are ya? Nah, just kidding, :STAB: I... just don't get this. Guys who are coming up to other guys asking for advice on how to make someone their girlfriend? People seem to do that a lot here. I guess I kinda get it. See your problem isn't that you don't know what to do or say, I think your problem is that you know EXACTLY what to say your just too afraid to say it. Its okay. Happens to everyone. The trick herein lies in that you just can't let her know. Women have a keen sense of smell, and they can just SMELL the fear potruding from the sweat that rolls down your face when you come up to talk to them. Don't come to ask for advice anymore Sly, cause the truth is none of us no any better than you do. Each woman is case sensitve and different things work for different pimps and women alike. Alls you gotta do is just not care-- at the begining mind you. After you hit it off you better not screw it up by doing something stupid like not caring. I leave you with some great piece of advice a friend told another friend.

CLINT
See that pretty girl over there?
XANDER
Yeah?
CLINT
I'm going to walk up to her, smile and say, "Hi. I'm Clint." And if she just does anything other than smile back and tell me her name, there's another one right behind her.

[The Lizard]

Become her friend first, find out some of her common interests, ask around.



Hope this helps,
-The Lizard :D

[Singin' Stray Cat]

Just be her friend first, and worry about the girlfriend part later. Or not at all. I mean, geez, you're only fourteen. You don't even need to be agonizing over relationships yet, anyway. But that's just me and my old fashioned ways, I guess. :P

In any case, if you approach her as a potential friend rather than a potential girlfriend, it might take some of the pressure off you.

[Warnergirls]

im with Singin Stray Cat with this ;) first be friends, then when you two really know each other decide if its right.

[RogueMartian]

Become her friend first, find out some of her common interests, ask around.
Don't. Seriously, don't. For starters, once you become friends, you are in the friends zone. Girls don't like dating their friends, I don't know why guys keep doing this to themselves. I can't count how many posts on this board have been from guys wondering why their female friend doesn't return their feelings. As for asking around, um...yeah, you can do that, I remember people doing that in middle school. There's no real point to it.

You're 14, right? Be direct, at any age it's extremely cute and very flattering (not to mention it shows you have guts/confidence, and as a girl I can tell you, chicks dig that.)

Say something like, "Hi, I'm [insert name]", I was wondering if you want to hang out after school/this weekend/whatever."

From then on ad lib, find an activity you can do together, it would be extremely nice (if she says she'd like to hang out with you) if you THEN ask her her interests.

girl: sure, i'd love to hang out this saturday
you: great, what do you like to do?

Then it shows you actually care when she speaks. Besides, I know i'm going to get flamed for this one, but if you become her friend with the pretense of trying to collect info so you can be a boyfriend later, you aren't really friends. It's kind of deceptive don't you think?

Of course the best advice anyone can give you is to just be yourself, do what come's naturally. The worst that can happen is she says no.

[ToonamiFanatic]

Don't. Seriously, don't. For starters, once you become friends, you are in the friends zone. Girls don't like dating their friends, I don't know why guys keep doing this to themselves. I can't count how many posts on this board have been from guys wondering why their female friend doesn't return their feelings.

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I have a question about that. some people say be her friend first and move on from there. I heard someone say on this board I think or some other board forgot which one that said if you head down the friends path hoping to get a girlfriend you will forever be stuck in the friends zone as you said in your post.
heres my question how do you know when to stop being friends and move into a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship? and why do some girls dont want to date their friends is it cause they think it will destroy the relationship or something?
I guess I am confused about relationship type stuff since I am single.
didnt to barge in but I just wanted that question answered

[Jaguar]

Don't. Seriously, don't. For starters, once you become friends, you are in the friends zone. Girls don't like dating their friends, I don't know why guys keep doing this to themselves. I can't count how many posts on this board have been from guys wondering why their female friend doesn't return their feelings. As for asking around, um...yeah, you can do that, I remember people doing that in middle school. There's no real point to it.

You're 14, right? Be direct, at any age it's extremely cute and very flattering (not to mention it shows you have guts/confidence, and as a girl I can tell you, chicks dig that.)

Say something like, "Hi, I'm [insert name]", I was wondering if you want to hang out after school/this weekend/whatever."

From then on ad lib, find an activity you can do together, it would be extremely nice (if she says she'd like to hang out with you) if you THEN ask her her interests.

girl: sure, i'd love to hang out this saturday
you: great, what do you like to do?

Then it shows you actually care when she speaks. Besides, I know i'm going to get flamed for this one, but if you become her friend with the pretense of trying to collect info so you can be a boyfriend later, you aren't really friends. It's kind of deceptive don't you think?

Of course the best advice anyone can give you is to just be yourself, do what come's naturally. The worst that can happen is she says no.

That advice was so good that I'm going to print it out and laminate it onto my hand. :anime:

[SlyBoy]

I have this phrase I wanna say to her, and I need your guys' comments...

"Hi, I'm (insert name) from Algebra class. I was wondering, do you want to hang out with me and chat?"

How's that?

[The Falcon]

I have this phrase I wanna say to her, and I need your guys' comments...

"Hi, I'm (insert name) from Algebra class. I was wondering, do you want to hang out with me and chat?"

How's that?
NO!!! no no no no no no no! don't say that! sorry, but it seems too corny for these modern times

say something like, "man, that last algebra test really sucked" and then she'll say something along the lines of, "yeah, it sure did". then you say, "hi! my name is sly-bizzle." and she'll say "nice to meet you, sly-bizzle. my name is that girl from algebra class" and then you say, "nice to meet you! wanna go over your answers with me?" and then just wing it from there. of course, this all depends on whether you have a test in algebra class that day or not

Falcon

[SlyBoy]

I talked to her today near the end of Algebra class. We talked about the usual things like pets, hobbies, etc. I also asked her if she could see me at lunch to chat some more. Looks like things are lookin' up! :)