What do you do when your stuck in the middle

[Crystalfox0]

Ok, I need big time advice here. I was just informed by one of my friends that my boyfriend had sexualy assulted her, at a party that we were at with a group of friends. I of course went and asked my boyfriend what happened, and he denies that anything happened. So now I'm stuck in the middle and I don't know who to believe. I do have a gut feeling that my friend is telling me the truth because this isn't something that she would lie about, but I can't proove anything. I would really appreciate any advice you could give me. Thanks.

*side note. There was no alcohal or drugs at this party seeing how it was a school sponcered party.

[The Falcon]

from my own personal experience of "being in the middle" all i can say is this...

if you pry too much into the matter, it can only make matters worse

that is all

Falcon

[Outlander00]

Wow, Crystal... I dont know what to tell you, because there is so many factors to think about with this issue :(

All I can say is to talk to both of them and get both sides perspectives of the incident before making and judgement in this... This is a very messy situation that could hurt all if not handled properly. Because, it all comes down to trust in the end.

[Stewie]

Wow, that's a tough one. Especially if you don't know who to believe.
There are two possibilities to consider:
1. One of them is telling the truth, the other is lying. If that's the case, you have a problem with one of them.
2. They are both telling the truth. This could happen if your friend misunderstood your boyfriends intentions, or he did something that he didn't think was wrong. (That's not to imply he did nothing wrong, but maybe he didn't realize what he was doing.)

For one thing, I would try not to make any judgements at all until you have some proof (other than what someone told you) of what happened.

The other thing, try to make it clear to both of them that you believe them. That may be hard for them to accept, they may think that if you believe one, you don't believe the other.

This is the problem with being in the middle, you're not on anyone's side.
If you're lucky, both of them will be understanding that you are not necessarily on their side.

[Crystalfox0]

*sigh* Well, there's an investigation going on on what happened. Though the investigators don't know what to believe since there was no witnesses, and it's one word against another. Me and some of my other friends that were there are being interviewed, though I don't know why because we wern't there when it happened. I've been asked not to talk to either my friend or my boyfriend untill the investigation is over, which is fine by me because it gets me out from the middle.

[Joe Mama]

An investigation! That is big.

[Leaping Larry Jojo]

Yes, doing nothing is usually the best thing in this situation. I guess you just have to hope it was a misinterpretation or false accusation, a la Homer Simpson and the candy-on-the-butt...

[Crystalfox0]

*snicker* Well one can hope it's a misunderstanding like that. But ya there is an investigation because my school REALLY doesn't like the possibility that there might be a rapest at the school. Not to mention my friend's parents arn't to thrilled with the news either and they want answears.