A Few Questions About Interracial Dating

[Chris Sanders MSX]

Interracial Dating, What's your stance on it ?

Have you ever been in an interracial realtionship or are you in one ?

How have/would your family react ?


I'm doing this mostly for a sociology project, but I'm also a little currious. I've been in a couple relationship's like this and I rarely ever can find anyone in my school who has also done this same thing, which was a reason I decided to do my questionare here as opposed to in school.

Thanks

[ZorBrak]

Interracial Dating, What's your stance on it ?

I have absolutely no problem with it, if I love a girl of another race or if she's of another religion or athiest, then I don't care because I love her.

Have you ever been in an interracial realtionship or are you in one ?

This half asian/white chick keeps hitting on me but I haven't decided if I wanna ask her out yet :p

How have/would your family react ?

They wouldn't care about the race thing at all, they probably wouldn't care about religion...if they did I would say it's my decision and my choice not theirs....

[Majin Buu]

Interracial Dating, What's your stance on it ?

I am fine with it! No problem at all! ^_^

Have you ever been in an interracial realtionship or are you in one ?

Nope.

How have/would your family react ?

My family is very liberal about stuff like this, so just like me, they would have no problem with it.

[Nightflower]

Interracial Dating, What's your stance on it ?

Don't care. I'll still be interested in the guy based on merits like personality, compatibility, ambitions, sense of humor, kindness, and stuff like that, regardless of his skin color.

Have you ever been in an interracial realtionship or are you in one ?

Yes and yes. Actually, I've yet to date an Asian guy, but that's just coincidence, not preference.

How have/would your family react ?

Like I said in several threads, it depends on the race. My mom's okay with white guys (Not as good as a Chinese man, but they'll do), but flat-out forbids me to go out with Indian guys, and especially Black guys.

[Shnay]

Interracial Dating, What's your stance on it ?

No problems with it. In fact, I'd imagine that as people of different races/ethnicities continue to have kids together, the ethnic boundries we see today will slowly fade.

Have you ever been in an interracial realtionship or are you in one ?

No...but, well...let's just say I'm probably not a good example to use in any relationship question. :(

How have/would your family react ?

They'd be happy I found someone, and would be fine with it.

[Daniel P]

Interracial Dating, What's your stance on it ?
It doesn't matter. If you love someone, you love them. It doesn't matter what race they are part of. If you cut someone's skin, their blood is going to be the same color, whether they have black, white, or red skin.

Have you ever been in an interracial realtionship or are you in one ?
No.

How have/would your family react ?
I don't think they'd have a problem. Now, if it was another religion, then they would probably get a little worried and discourage me from getting into a deep relationship.

[Outlander00]

Interracial Dating, What's your stance on it ?

Who cares? You are attracted to whoever you are attracted, whatever your color, creed, nationality, religion, girth, height, hair color, eye color, conservative, liberal... Well you get it! :p

Have you ever been in an interracial realtionship or are you in one ?

I've been in a couple. One was a Mexican girl (gorgeous) but broke up because of her father. Another was a half Asian/Russian girl, but we broke up because she was flakey. Then there are the girls who were attracted to me, but thats another thread :p

How have/would your family react ?

My parents dont care, as long as she takes care of me :p

[JohnCrichton]

Interracial Dating, What's your stance on it ?

When it comes to relationships, love and attraction I really don't notice it at all.... can't believe it'd still be an issue. To me it's a trivial as difference of hair color or the social circle the person moves in..... the latter usually effect the relationship more than the person's racial background.


Have you ever been in an interracial realtionship or are you in one ?

All the frellin' time. :D




How have/would your family react ?

As long as the woman is not in addition a mass murderer and killer, I don't think they could care less.

[murmur]

Originally posted by Chris Sanders MSX
Interracial Dating, What's your stance on it ?
Stance? Like, pro or con? Pro. There's no problem with it.

Have you ever been in an interracial realtionship or are you in one ?
I'm currently dating a girl who's half-Latina if that counts. It's not exclusive (yet) though, if that's your requirement for "relationship." Another girl I was with is a quarter black. And some of them had different nationalities as well (Irish, Russian), though basically all caucasian.

How have/would your family react ?
The race itself makes no difference. Just the religion. :( If she was Jewish, it wouldn't matter what color her skin was. Of course, since Judaism is often considered an ethnicity as well, you might say that's still a racial issue...

[JohnStewart-GL]

Originally posted by Nightflower
but flat-out forbids me to go out with Indian guys, and especially Black guys.
Why is that. Im just curious about whats wrong with black guys. I have a few asians in my class and i noticed that they distance themselves from blacks for the most part. why is that? because of the sterotypes? Any way i dated a spanish girl once.

[Nightflower]

Originally posted by JohnStewart-GL
Why is that. Im just curious about whats wrong with black guys. I have a few asians in my class and i noticed that they distance themselves from blacks for the most part. why is that? because of the sterotypes? Any way i dated a spanish girl once.

I don't know if most asians have a problem with black people, I'm just speaking for my mom. Anyway, as I've mentioned in past threads before (Because it's so freakin' funny), she says, "Don't ever date a black guy, because then your babies would be weird!"

[JohnCrichton]

If looking like that super model, Tyson is looking weird then hell yeah! Where do I sign! :D

[randomguy]

Interracial Dating, what's your stance on it?:
I'm cool with it, and I certainly encourage it in the future, because it's my hope that it will lead to less prejudice in the world.

Have you ever been in an interracial relationship or are you in one now?:
I'm in one currently, and it's very meaningful to me. So, there you have it.

How have/would your family react?
Well, when I introduced them, I hadn't actually mentioned her race before. So, it caught them off guard, but they didn't have a problem with it. Wouldn't matter if they did, though.

[Clayface]

Interracial Dating, What's your stance on it ?


Don't really care. You fall for who you fall for - whatever their race.


Have you ever been in an interracial realtionship or are you in one ?


Nope.


How have/would your family react ?


My father would disown me (he's told me so many, many times), and my mother would lecture me and try to convince me not to date someone out of my race, but eventually keep quiet about it and just give disapproving comments and looks.

[kiddiesunshine]

My stance on Interracial Dating?

First of all, I think it's sad that this is even a subject. I'll never understand why people insist on pointing out race. nor will I understand why this classification exists. Love is where you find it.
I'm all for it.

Have I ever been in an interracial relationship?

Unfortunately, no. Truth be told, I haven't been in too many relationships of any kind. But I did see a cute Asian girl give me the eye at work yesterday. I wouldn't mind getting involved with her, but she was on some other guy's arm. Oh, well.

How would my family react?

My family wouldn't give a crap. I get my feelings about race from my family, thus our stance is the same. My older sister is married to a white guy, but my family is able to see past the color of his skin. If only HIS family shared that ability. They have been quite vocal about their opinions of blacks. It's sad, really. Live's too short to point out things that don't even matter.

[DarthNuriko]

~Interracial Dating, What's your stance on it ?

Boink who you want. (Vulgar, but it states my stance on it pretty well. :D)

~Have you ever been in an interracial realtionship or are you in one ?

No relationships period.

~How have/would your family react ?

My dad wouldn't care. My mom might be a bit apprehensive. I'd think she'd like nothing more than me dating "our own kind", but she knows full well I'm not attracted to men within my own race.

[Nightwing]

I agree about how I wouldn't even want this to be a topic, but I'm afraid we've got some time for evolving to go before we can put this behind us, and just unconsciously see people for who they are. We'll get there though, just be patient, and strong. :)

I could go on about that, and I'd like to cuz I've been thinking about it recently. But I'll save it, cuz that's not the topic, and I gots more to say anways. :p

I think for the younger generations, the majority of the replies to the survey are going to be the same, except for the part about the family reaction. This is the part I don't like the most.

It's so strong in many cases, that it forces the children of the parents to adopt, accept, and desire the same thing their parents do. That whole "brainwashing" part I don't really like, generally speaking.

I guess some social precedents just aren't necessary anymore. It's not like this one hurts us any. In fact, the deeper the dip in the gene pool you go the stronger your kids'll end up.

Small Case Study: I was at my aunt's house, who is in her 70s or so, and this topic came up. She asked me what I would do, and when I instinctively answered the same as most of you did, she gave me a playfull little tap to the face, as if to say "ooh you naughty boy." I expect all this though, until her reasoning...

Her reasoning for feeling that way was as illogical to me as considering race as a condition in the first place. She said she'd just worry about how others would treat them and specifically their kids while in school. And I thought geepers, a person shouldn't have to sacrifice part of who they are for the sake of appeasing ignorance and intolerance and stuff like that.

I didn't say that, or anything at the time, though, because this was my first exposure to that reasoning, and when it's my first time I usually think about it for a while before I come up with something (I think and speak...a lot... :p).

[kiddiesunshine]

This is why I think youth is such a beautiful thing. Youth knows nothing about prejudice. I think Homer Simpson said it best:
"Kids are great. You can teach them to hate the things you hate."
As long as parents are passing on hate to their children, this problem will never go away. (If I was alive in the 60's, I would've been a big-time flower child.)

[Jedigreedo]

Originally posted by Chris Sanders MSX
Interracial Dating, What's your stance on it ?


If all you care about is their appearance, then even if they're the same race as you then the relationship is gonna have problems.

Originally posted by Chris Sanders MSX
Have you ever been in an interracial realtionship or are you in one ?

Yeah, my last one was with an Asian girl. Nothing wrong with it..

Originally posted by Chris Sanders MSX
How have/would your family react ?

I really have no idea, but then again my love life is my business. The two relationships I've had, which were actually over the net I didn't tell them a single thing. I've only told one person in my family that I've had online relationships, but never went into specifics like race and stuff because it wasn't needed.

[cross blues]

If I like a girl, then I like her. Race has nothing to do with it.


I've dated an asian girl once. Had the same problems as with every other girl... :(


Don't care what my family would think.

[TimTwoFace]

Interracial Dating, What's your stance on it?

As the consensus on this board states, if you love them, race doesn't matter. It's the personality that matters.

Have you ever been in an interracial realtionship or are you in one?

I don't know if I'd call it an official relationship, but...yep. It was a relationship that didn't really work out, but it wasn't due to race at all. In fact, most of the people that I hook up with aren't of my race (caucasian) but, rather, asian. I don't know why that is, but it's something I've noticed. And it doesn't matter to me one bit. :)

How have/would your family react?

To be honest, I think they'd ultimately like to see me with someone of my own race, but at the same time, they'd be equally happy as long as I'm in a good relationship where the two of us are in love. :)

-Tim

[James]

Interracial Dating, What's your stance on it ?

Not an issue. Dull as that. Nice to see such a uniform outlook in this thread.

Have you ever been in an interracial realtionship or are you in one ?

No I haven't. In fact, I don't think I've known that many girls of different race. As a proportion of people I've met, it's comparatively a rather small fraction.

How have/would your family react ?

They'd be fine. As long as I'm happy, they're happy - that's all that matters.

[Feslmogh]

Interracial Dating, What's your stance on it ?

This article helps me explain my stance... (http://www.answersingenesis.org/docs/4119.asp)

Have you ever been in an interracial realtionship or are you in one ?

I had very close freindship relationships that I'll cherish forever.

How have/would your family react ?


It depends on the situation...

[Nightflower]

In terms of asking people what their stance is on interracial dating, I don't think you *would* get a response saying that they were against it, even if they were. Even if a person was aware that he had made a conscious decision in his mind to only stick with his own race (Rather than not being aware of it, or justifying it with a different explanation in his head), he'd probably learn by now from past experiences that he'd get lynched if he said it in a public forum.

(BTW, I'm only writing "he", because I'm too lazy to write "he/she" ^_^)

[czyznyck99]

Every time someone brings up this issue I always consider if we all were dogs instead of humans. Would it matter then? Are we short sighted? Or do I just have a sick sense of humor?

Later.

[kiddiesunshine]

In terms of asking people what their stance is on interracial dating, I don't think you *would* get a response saying that they were against it, even if they were. Even if a person was aware that he had made a conscious decision in his mind to only stick with his own race (Rather than not being aware of it, or justifying it with a different explanation in his head), he'd probably learn by now from past experiences that he'd get lynched if he said it in a public forum.

I think that, as far as Internet forums are concerned, those with differing opinions would probably choose to not participate in the discussion rather than lie about it. What would a person have to gain from lying to strangers?

[Nightflower]

Originally posted by kiddiesunshine
I think that, as far as Internet forums are concerned, those with differing opinions would probably choose to not participate in the discussion rather than lie about it. What would a person have to gain from lying to strangers?
That's what I mean. I never said I think some people would lie.

[BLACKHEART]

My offical statement would get me banned. :)

So I'll just say, who cares! who cares! and again who cares! What's it matter anway when we are all on the same path to death. Who we travel with it and what they are doesn't even register on a cosmic scale.

[Singin' Stray Cat]

My answer's going to be pretty much the same as everyone's, at least the first part is. When I was younger, admittedly, I did have some apprehensions about dating outside my race. But now, after getting out and meeting all sorts of people, I can honestly say I'd have no problem with it.

Sadly though, I'm pretty sure my parents...no, my whole family...would probably disown me if I dated someone of a different race. I could tell them "it doesn't matter, he's a great guy" until I was blue in the face, but it wouldn't do a bit of good. :( My dad might accept it...my half-brother recently got married to a woman from Korea, and my dad's been very nice to them... came to the wedding, sent gifts and everything. But I'm not sure about the rest of my family. Even my younger sister.

I frequently read letters in the newspaper about families who so disapprove of interracial marriages that they take it out on the children. I mean, it's one thing to purposely be snide to adults who have made a conscious decision, but to the kids? It absolutely breaks my heart to see people act so cold. They'd rather embrace some outdated, hateful, erronous belief than their own grandchildren.

[ccffan01]

1. Doesn't bother me.

2. Nope

3. They wouldn't mind atleast I don't think they will.

[Taiso]

Interracial Dating, What's your stance on it ?
Have you ever been in an interracial realtionship or are you in one ?

I'm willing to try anything. Although I think there are some issues that haven't been addressed in this thread that I will refer to. For example, culture difference can be more important that people think. Now I live in London, one of the most multi cultural cities in the world, and I've observed a lot of people from a lot of different cultures, and to believe that anyone from any race can get along very easily is being naive IMHO.

Now I'm chinese, a Buddhist, and although I've grown up here I'm still very much chinese. Speak the language, etc etc. I have a lot of chinese friends, and I've been very involved in the chinese community all my life(especially at university), Now if I was to date a non chinese girl, there are certain things I would have to consider. For example, would she be as respectful as me? Chinese culture demands respect from everyone, especially towards elders, so I would expect all my friends/girlfriends, to act with the same respect that I do. I would need a girl with a similar mindset as mine. Now if I was to date a Muslim girl, and she wanted to get married, I would be required to convert to being Muslim, which is something that I'd have to think long and hard about.
My african friend, who is Muslim, only ever considers Muslim girls, and would find it virtually impossible to date a non muslim girl. Although he's one of the most generous and friendly people I know, and so are his family, the culture dictates his way of thinking.

There are very big cultural differences which can easily cause problems with interracial relationships, and these must be taken into account. It would be unfair to label people as narrow minded or racist without taking these into account first.

How have/would your family react ?

My family wouldn't be very happy, although my parents wouldn't stop me as long as they thought she was a nice lady. My cousin is getting married to a white girl, and although his father isn't happy, there's not much he can do about it so he's not being to obstinate. However I know plenty of people who would not be so lucky. It's all easy enough to say that one shouldn't listen to the parents etc, but it's a lot harder in real life.

[Karkull]

Interracial Dating, What's your stance on it?

Sounds good to me. Why limit your chances, :D ? Seriously though, it's another way to break the chains of racist thought in this world.

Have you ever been in an interracial realtionship or are you in one?

I dated a Greek girl, plus I tried to ask out a girl who was half-Korean, half-Chilean.

How have/would your family react?

Hmmm...don't know, but my parents don't mind my sister marrying a man who's half-Chinese, so I'm pretty optimistic, :p .

[Bartak123]

I have friends who only find their own race attractive. They are not neccesarily against others interracily dating, but would not date another person from another race. Me personally, I don't like interracial dating since I don't like any dating of any sort:p.

[Moonbay]

I've actually never cared about the whole "race" thing.... were all people, right? Anyways, I know for sure the race thing doesn't/hasn't bother me..... Asian, White, Indian, Latino, yadda yadda, such pretty colors. ^_^ I don't much take note. And what my family would think? That wouldn't really matter either, I suppose. (My mother is white and my dad is Asian, hehehehehehe!)

[Feslmogh]

Originally posted by Karkull


Have you ever been in an interracial realtionship or are you in one?

I dated a Greek girl, plus I tried to ask out a girl who was half-Korean, half-Chilean.



I would not think Greek being a race. More of where she came from...

[Feslmogh]

Originally posted by Moonbay
I've actually never cared about the whole "race" thing.... were all people, right? Anyways, I know for sure the race thing doesn't/hasn't bother me..... Asian, White, Indian, Latino, yadda yadda, such pretty colors. ^_^ I don't much take note. And what my family would think? That wouldn't really matter either, I suppose. (My mother is white and my dad is Asian, hehehehehehe!)

You mean your mother is Amrerican and your father is Aisan OR
Your mother is white and your dad is yellow...if we were talking about skin color...

[CryptiniteDemon]

I don't disagree with it one bit. I think people should mix races all the time. Hell, I'm from like 5 different ones myself. And it's also genetically good for the human race because new genes equals better chances of not having a mutation.

Another reason I like interacial marriages and such is they usually breed good lookin' kids. Yeah this may be a stereotype or a generalization, but that's my opinion.

[Terhwa]

A Few Questions About Interracial Dating

Interracial Dating, What's your stance on it ?

I have no problem, really it's what's in a persons heart that counts, any barriers regarding race or culture are all illusions anyway, essentially we are all the same.


Have you ever been in an interracial realtionship or are you in one ?

My wife is Chinese we have a beautiful daughter and everything is just fine.

How have/would your family react ?

They were fine about it, pretty much been brought up to believe what I said in question 1 so I would expect no less from my parents.

[Supreme]

I am interracial. So is my wife (different from any of my 3 races). Therefore, our daughter is ultra-interracial. Whoever she wants to date is fine. Just contributing to the great American melting pot :)

[ButteredToast]

Originally posted by Chris Sanders MSX
Interracial Dating, What's your stance on it ?

Have you ever been in an interracial realtionship or are you in one ?

How have/would your family react ?


I'm doing this mostly for a sociology project, but I'm also a little currious. I've been in a couple relationship's like this and I rarely ever can find anyone in my school who has also done this same thing, which was a reason I decided to do my questionare here as opposed to in school.

Thanks

1. Absolutely no problems with it... The color of the skin, or the slant of the eyes? It's only on the surface. It's superficial. It's nothing. We're all made up of the same bits on the inside. We're all human beings, and that's what counts. We're all of the same species, just all variations on a theme.

2. Unfortunately, no. I would have liked to be in one when I was younger to, if for any other reason, to broaden my horizons. I came pretty close to a few during my time in high school, but they usually ended up only being friends... *sigh* ah well... I'm married now, so it's really not an option for me anymore. :p :D Anyway, love is love. You can't put a label on that.

3. How my family would react would not concern me... it is my life after all and they'd just have to deal with it. Not that they have prejudices or anything. (They didn't exactly react kindly to my current marriage, but I weathered that storm and they dealt with it.)