A question to the guys

[Psilon]

Well, guys who are heterosexual.

If you are heterosexual male, this scenario has happened a thousand times. You could be thinking about something and then a beautiful girl walks by, and all thought goes rushing out of your head (and goes somewhere else). Do you find this irritating, or do you accept it as part of your humanity.

I personally find it extremly annoying. I find it to be such a waste of my brain , a reason why I chose celibacy. How could I devote myself to any endeavour when my animal instincts knock on the door every time a girl walks by. That is my opinion.

[Weatherman]

That would depend on what I'm doing. When I'm riding around on my bike, I tend to notice people walking around me. When I'm just sitting around, I tend not to unless I'm actively looking aroud. *shrugs*

[Meson]

Depends what I am doing, but I usually just chalk it up to my humainty.

[James]

Hmm, I never believed I did this until I got my driving license... you don't notice yourself blank that much until you are driving a deathtrap!

I like to think I can control my thought patterns, although it embarassing if you are chatting and suddenly lose track.

I'm sure this isn't something that applies just to hetrosexual males - females, homosexuals, plants and tiny ducks surely suffer the same blanking - back me up here!

[JohnCrichton]

It's humanity.

Saw a special on this subject on the Discovery Channel.

Our checking women out thing is actually an uncontrolled reflex, that's a throwback to our primate days. Gotta find the best stock to mate with.

It's as reflexive as shutting your eyes when you sneeze.

[zero zero nine]

I personally find it extremly annoying. I find it to be such a waste of my brain , a reason why I chose celibacy. How could I devote myself to any endeavour when my animal instincts knock on the door every time a girl walks by.

That has got to be tough. I mean, I can't/couldn't do that (be celibate). What is it like?

[ToonamiFanatic]

I know what you mean. its happened to me several times
and in the most weird places and its annoying
thinking normal stuff and a girl comes and sits by you and your mind goes in the gutter per say

[TimTwoFace]

Originally posted by SJJ

I'm sure this isn't something that applies just to hetrosexual males - females, homosexuals, plants and tiny ducks surely suffer the same blanking - back me up here!

Man, I THOUGHT I saw that duckling makin' eyes at me when I ran past the pond the other day!

Anyway, I don't usually look at these girls if I'm already engrossed in something that is using my brain. However, if I'm out there driving, biking, walking, standing around waiting for a bus, or doing something that requires no real thought, of course I look.

Just remember to duck before they smack you back.

-Tim

[JohnCrichton]

Funny story.

Girl I'm seeing now showed up at my place in her Halloween costume(or lack thereof! :o ) and yelled at me for breaking plans at the very last second to play TimeSplitters 2 with a old buddy of mine.

Only think was I didn't really hear her yelling at me cuz I was just.... :eek: at her costume the whole time that all I saw was a sexual pixy giggling in front of me.

It wasn't 'til she called me and yelled at me did I realise I was in trouble.

When she tells the story, "Yeah, I was yelling at him! All he could say back to me after yelling at him for several minutes was, 'Are you going to wear that to the office party.....' UGH!"

My buddy who witnessd said, "Heh... Keith's taking this pretty well."

[Psilon]

Originally posted by SJJ
Hmm, I never believed I did this until I got my driving license... you don't notice yourself blank that much until you are driving a deathtrap!

I like to think I can control my thought patterns, although it embarassing if you are chatting and suddenly lose track.

I'm sure this isn't something that applies just to hetrosexual males - females, homosexuals, plants and tiny ducks surely suffer the same blanking - back me up here!

I can't really speak for females, homosexuals, plants and tiny ducks becuase I'm not one of them. Though I wonder how ducks life is...

[Beat]

I accept it as a part of being a guy. I deal with it.

[Chris Sanders MSX]

I find it natural. I mean it's not your fault you can't concentrate. It's her's ! :D I accepted it along time ago and I'm better for it.

I could never really concentrate around girl. I've learned that if your going to stare at a girl, when she asks you what your looking at be completely honest. It'll go over better than you expect.

I'm currently not dating right now* and I'm honestly doing better in school than I have for a long time,and I'm not as stressed as much as I used to be. Sometimes you miss stuff like kissing and talking to them when somethings bothering you so you can hear them go "awwwww" in that cute way but until I get my life together that's just the way it's going to be.


*To those that read my college essay and may be confused by this I started on that essay months ago, and at that time I was dating this girl.

[ButteredToast]

Heh... par for the course for me. I'm rather absent minded and lose train of thought at the drop of a...

Shoot, what was I talking about again?

[Zechs]

I'm not a guy but that has happened to me every once in a while. I'll be looking a guy and bam there comes that thought I wish would just go away. I just deal with it beacuse it all apart of being human. Hey as long as I don't act on it I'm fine .

[LastSonofKrypton]

Being an old (and by that I mean 39 year old) married man, I can tell you that even when you are committed to someone and have a million other things on your mind (How am I going to pay this month's bills?, etc.), the old instincts never go away. It doesn't really matter what I'm doing. If a pretty woman walks by, my thoughts immediately go to her.

It's annoying, distracting, and perfectly natural. Fortunately, it usually lasts just about a minute or two, and then life gets back to normal and I can get back to worrying about things like how I'm going to pay this month's bills.

Originally posted by Psilon2011
Well, guys who are heterosexual.

If you are heterosexual male, this scenario has happened a thousand times. You could be thinking about something and then a beautiful girl walks by, and all thought goes rushing out of your head (and goes somewhere else). Do you find this irritating, or do you accept it as part of your humanity.

I personally find it extremly annoying. I find it to be such a waste of my brain , a reason why I chose celibacy. How could I devote myself to any endeavour when my animal instincts knock on the door every time a girl walks by. That is my opinion.

[Outlander00]

Originally posted by Psilon2011
Well, guys who are heterosexual.

If you are heterosexual male, this scenario has happened a thousand times. You could be thinking about something and then a beautiful girl walks by, and all thought goes rushing out of your head (and goes somewhere else). Do you find this irritating, or do you accept it as part of your humanity.

I personally find it extremly annoying. I find it to be such a waste of my brain , a reason why I chose celibacy. How could I devote myself to any endeavour when my animal instincts knock on the door every time a girl walks by. That is my opinion.


Well I've learned to just keep my mouth shut. But there is the occasional female with certain features (like ice blue eyes, tanned, pretty face, long legs with light brown hair) THEN I tend to become oblivious to the world around me. Thank the powers that be for girl friends who get jealous easily... Otherwise I don't know what I would do :p

[Digu Volz]

Eh, I give a second look when I notice them, but I don't lose my train of thought.

[Dark Spider]

I look at girls for a living, especially if I'm interested in them. But an interesting things happens to one woman that I find to be the most beautiful out of the bunch. I don't check her out. I consider her to be the most prettiest woman I've seen for quite awhile and I don't check her out so often. Maybe its because she's a very young adult and I'm still a teen. I don't know...

[Zoddman]

heh, you get used to it. But it is annoying when you're in a conversation with a PARENT, and then a Victoria's Secret ad pops up on the telly. One minute you're in a long, drawn out talk, next minute I'm William Shatner. :rolleyes:

[Spookmonkey]

Originally posted by Psilon2011
Well, guys who are heterosexual.

If you are heterosexual male, this scenario has happened a thousand times. You could be thinking about something and then a beautiful girl walks by, and all thought goes rushing out of your head (and goes somewhere else). Do you find this irritating, or do you accept it as part of your humanity.

I personally find it extremly annoying. I find it to be such a waste of my brain , a reason why I chose celibacy. How could I devote myself to any endeavour when my animal instincts knock on the door every time a girl walks by. That is my opinion.

I personally find the female form fascinating (unless it happens to have copious ammounts of backfat) and especially at my school I have to deal with it... the ratio of hotties/cuties to fuglies is probably about 9 to 1. that's right, only one out of every 10 girls at my school are ugly (this also includes the teachers). This makes art history class much easier to get through. I don't really see how you can find it annoying unless you supress your instincts so much that they build up to a point where they basicly shut you down. It's stupid to ignore/repress any part of your natural being to such a degree that it starts really and trully interfering when it shows up. You need to incorperate your instincts into your self being so you can use them to your advantage, not doing so is a waste of brain.

[Spookmonkey]

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That has got to be tough. I mean, I can't/couldn't do that (be celibate). What is it like?

Now is it trully self impossed? or is that what you just tell yourself?

[Theking]

Originally posted by LastSonofKrypton
Being an old (and by that I mean 39 year old) married man, I can tell you that even when you are committed to someone and have a million other things on your mind (How am I going to pay this month's bills?, etc.), the old instincts never go away. It doesn't really matter what I'm doing. If a pretty woman walks by, my thoughts immediately go to her.

It's annoying, distracting, and perfectly natural. Fortunately, it usually lasts just about a minute or two, and then life gets back to normal and I can get back to worrying about things like how I'm going to pay this month's bills.
Dude, being almost there with you at 34 I have to agree with you. altho I have to admit that I do control myself very well. esp in front of the wife, yikes.

TheKing

[Psilon]

Originally posted by zero zero nine
That has got to be tough. I mean, I can't/couldn't do that (be celibate). What is it like?

It can be hard but ultimately liberating. I view everyone in the world as brothers and sisters. So for me, romantic love died a long time ago. And the thing is eventually after a while when sex no longer becomes the primary goal of life the urgency slowly slips away.

[Sandro]

This whole thing does hail back to the caveman days. Back then, all guys had to do was catch food and impregnate women. There was no TV, no radio, no computers and even no books. What else was there to do? Doing this for several thousand or so years just put the whole concept into the back of the minds of men. It's a sub-conscious thing; we can't help it.

[Leaping Larry Jojo]

You can't help hormones. Going celibate isn't going to help, since you'll still feel that attraction. Of course, one should control himself anyways, but as for me, I do find myself glancing at "lookers" a lot.

If any girls are reading, have you frequently noticed guys looking at you? I myself don't "stare" at females, but I turn my head around a lot (as if I'm looking around the room) to catch glances at someone if I find them particularly attractive.

Some girls are just attractive, and I admire their looks, but I don't give them much thought beyond a few seconds. Some girls I find mildly attractive, but the more I see them, the more interesting I find them if there's a certain quality about them that attracts me, but I can't finger what it is. Usually these types of girls I think of approaching them. And some are super attractive, but something about their demeanor turns me off.

Right now, I am thinking of dating again, though not so much for lust as to find someone I can really talk to. I'm not a very talkative guy--I'm not really into meaningless yammer like most people, so I'm more interested in a meatier, more open relationship than my past ones. I don't talk to my family about everything in my life, and as for my friends, well, they're not people you can talk deeply to. So right now I am looking for someone I can connect with on a more personal level rather than kissing every 30 seconds, or making cutey pie faces at each other all the time. I'm sure this makes me sound like one of those thirty-something women who want to "find themselves" and go into a relationship with "substance", but yes, that's how I feel right now. Also, I wouldn't mind regularly looking at someone I find pretty for a change. Looking at my ugly friends and blah family everyday has all but killed my natural animal instincts for the last year or so. So getting some charisma and bounce back would be nice.

[Psilon]

Originally posted by Sandro885
This whole thing does hail back to the caveman days. Back then, all guys had to do was catch food and impregnate women. There was no TV, no radio, no computers and even no books. What else was there to do? Doing this for several thousand or so years just put the whole concept into the back of the minds of men. It's a sub-conscious thing; we can't help it.

Nah, I don't think so. It depends on what you value. You and the majority of the world value finding a soulmate of some sort. I really don't care for such things.

[Leaping Larry Jojo]

Originally posted by Psilon2011
Nah, I don't think so. It depends on what you value. You and the majority of the world value finding a soulmate of some sort. I really don't care for such things.

Can't blame you, being Canadian and all. I find it difficult to concentrate on relationships with the drab and the cold up here in Toronto at the present moment. Also, Torontonians are pretty aloof and emotionless. Doesn't exactly stimulate the sexual juices, if you know what I mean. :p ;)

[cross blues]

wow.... I am so different that I'm thinking there might be something wrong with me... :( if I'm focused on something, it would take a really amazing girl to break my concentration. and my thoughts don't go in the gutter, more like way off into space thinking about what life would be like with her, if she has a guy: how he treats her-stuff like that. I don't even look at girls much any more. Tell me if you can relate: you see a girl out of the corner of your eye and think "she must be the most beautiful girl I gotta get a better look!" but then when you get a clear look, well lets just say there goes the great image of her you had. I like to keep that image and for that reason I barely look at girls. There are so many out there I'm sure I'm not missing much anyway. I do have a weakness for long hair though, that usually gets my attention.

[Leaping Larry Jojo]

People will not notice you if you do not wish to be noticed.

BTW--more than once, I have run through what life would be like with girls I know or have met briefly with. It's basic human nature to speculate on such things. In one of my scenarios, I ran into a love triangle and found myself not being able to find my way out of it...

I sure hope I don't run into anything sticky like that in my future. I almost did once, but circumstances favoured me so that I did not have to deal with it.

[Lucky Bob]

Actually, I've never had my concentration broken up by...by...

Hey, Judy!