Love At First Sight

[Dark Vicious]

OK your resident problem helper needs help too

One day I was attending my classes when a new girl came in. Needless to say I was blown away she was beautiful and well I'm having problems talking to her the only place I see her is my 3rd period and band. How do you walk up to someone you don't know and say "Your so beautiful and I like you" without looking insane in her eyes? I need help

[Leaping Larry Jojo]

Originally posted by Dark Vicious
OK your resident problem helper needs help too



LOL. :rolleyes:

The most hilarious thing about those "beautiful" girls is that they are usually always taken. Which sometimes hasn't always stopped me, but...

Useful Advice--It's usually better to strike up some normal conversation first than to leave it all on the floor on the first meeting.

[Outlander00]

Just talk to her... get to know her... and do the most important thing you can with a girl: Get her to laugh! Most women look for a guy who can make her laugh. Its the one true ice breaker.

I know the feeling though... Everytime I see a female with a certain look, especially with certain type of eyes... I become a babbling idiot and want to say "I love you" :D

[Digu Volz]

Actually you could just tell her you think she is beautiful if that is all you want to say. At least then you'll have anchored yourself favorably in her mind and can go from there to initiating conversation if you so desire.

[The Guard]

There's a difference between love and lust.

[Dark Vicious]

Well I tried to talk to her before but I choked and now I would think she thinks I'm clinicly insane

[Barb Gordon]

Most girl's are really flattered that your nervous around them and are really sweet if they realize you are nervous...course some are completely oblivious. Just keep trying to talk with her, strike up a random conversation, or try to find something you're both interested in which you could use as an ice-breaker: "So you're having a hard time with that section too?" if you were in a band class together or something. Some girls are incredible flattered if you remark about their looks, though there are some that can be turned off by it "so all you like is how I look?" or are a bit freaked by it "I have a stalker, run away!"...so it's kinda a flip of the coin there. But that's just my thoughts on it, and I'm a girl, and guy advice might be better since I really only know how I would respond.

~Barb

[The Guard]

All right, Barb. Now head over to my thread and give ME some advice. :)

(Please)

[Leaping Larry Jojo]

It is a delicate balance. You would like to show that you like them without coming off geeky or creepy. Obviously, if you stare at her unblinkingly all the time with a creepy grin on your face, that's not going to make her feel comfortable. But if you come out and say GeegollyIthinkyou'resobeautiful then you'll appear stupid or geeky.

I personally think that you shouldn't make any specific remarks on her looks until you've known her for a bit first.

Being a little tense is okay. Most of the really decent girls find that somewhat endearing, I find.

My advice is to do what Homer Simpson did when he first met Marge (see my avatar). Pop in a DVD or watch a taped rerun and take notes. :D

[Dark Vicious]

How do I get her into detention?

[Leaping Larry Jojo]

Just treat 3rd period like detention! :D

[Captain Yurika]

*hugs* You poor thing!
I always Hated that awkwardness of meeting someone that you like and can't talk to. I have always been shy when it comes to cute guys so I can relate.

I'd have to echo Barb's advice though, just simply trying to chat will work great I think. Like she said girls will take into account nervousness and I've always thought it was cute. It makes a guy seem more "real" then. Whatever you wind up doing....good luck!

[JohnCrichton]

Times I've approached women nervous unless I already knew them I was toast on the spot.

I've yet to run in to a woman who isn't annoyed by a nervous guy.

Stay frosty Vicious.

[Sumi_Masen]

Some people aren't freaked out if you go up to them and say "Hey, I think you're cute." (of course.... if you say it all nervous-like, then you'll sound geeky) It's actually a pretty flattering comment to some people.

[JohnCrichton]

Here's my method of flirting Dark Vicious and so far it hasn't missed.

I call it the Bruce Lee style of flirting. He said it in that movie of his Fists of Fury I think it was called. His last movie.

He said, "When my opponent contracts I expand. When he expands I contract. And when the opening presents itself I do not strike.... The opening strikes all by itself."

Remember this when you approach. Don't try and make the moment.... be a part of the moment.

Rule number one is to always be aware of her feelings and reactions.

Keep that in mind, cuz if you're concentrating on yourself and not being nervous.... you'll be nervous and won't be able to focus on her and expanding and contracting with her conversation.

Master this and you're aces. ;)

[BLACKHEART]

Just walk up to her and tell her you got a little bank and you are wondering if she's down for a lil somethin' somethin' on Friday night.

[panther3751]

Just strike up a conversation with her. Get to know her friends. I always feel more confortable dating guys that I know, rather than guys I don't know very well. ;)

[Moonbay]

Simply acting super nice and recieving compliments always wins me over! :D :D :D :D :D

I hatehatehate it when guys try to impress by being mean or acting insane.... waste of time. I'm sure you don't do that, Dark Vicious! ;)

[jeffrey 228]

And I have a problem when needed to find girls or I eaither get beaten up or even worst, simple as that.

[AceOfKnaves]

It's all very simple.

Just be yourself. Be nice, and polite, but agressive at the same time. Let her know that you like her, but in a calm, gentle way. Don't just blurt it out. Wait to see if there is anychance before you say something regretable. She'll probably like you, so don't worry.

That wasn't so simple was it? :D

[Beat]

It all depends on age. I find that when Teenagers say "love", they really mean, "sex". You don't know what the hell love is when you're 17.

[Captain Yurika]

Originally posted by Moonbay
Simply acting super nice and recieving compliments always wins me over! :D :D :D :D :D

I hatehatehate it when guys try to impress by being mean or acting insane.... waste of time. I'm sure you don't do that, Dark Vicious! ;)

Moonbay, I agree! but I'd like to add bragging about stuff to win you over. I remember this guy I met once, who owned a house and ALL he talked about on our 1st (and only) phone conversation was all the things he owned, had in house, car he drove. You know what....most women except for gold-diggers don't care about that stuff. The fastest way to lose someone's interest is to brag.

To Beatdigga: I think I can sorta agree. Even when you get older though you can still mistake sex for love. I know people my age (25) or older who do the same thing. All you need to do is spend time with a person (out of the bedroom) to talk to them and get to know them to know if it's love or lust. :)

[Leaping Larry Jojo]

Yes, Dark Vicious, but are you tall??? :p

[Dark Vicious]

Yes....Very Very Tall ;)

[Leaping Larry Jojo]

Good, then you've already got an 80% advantage right there.

I don't believe in love at first sight. Lust, yes, but not love. I don't believe people really ever love someone until many years later with that person.

And how about a different love?

Do I love my family? Even now I'm not sure. I appreciate all they've done for me, and I care about them, but to what limit? What would I lay down for them? What would I sacrifice?

I don't expect to know the answer until I'm much older, to be honest.

[Beat]

I look at this topic, and suddenly remember how much BS the title phrase is. I've been hitting on this girl for a while, and today her boyfriend comes up to me, angry as hell. The guy was messed up, he was trying to supress the urge to hit me. So I let him go off with his overused parts.

The thing is, I didn't care. The girl was dead to me. Love? No frickin way.

[Captain Yurika]

Originally posted by Leaping Larry Jojo
Good, then you've already got an 80% advantage right there.

I don't believe in love at first sight. Lust, yes, but not love. I don't believe people really ever love someone until many years later with that person.

And how about a different love?

Do I love my family? Even now I'm not sure. I appreciate all they've done for me, and I care about them, but to what limit? What would I lay down for them? What would I sacrifice?

I don't expect to know the answer until I'm much older, to be honest.

I don't believe in love at FIRST sight, but I do in 2nd or 3rd sight.
The first time real true time I was in love was a man I met when I wasn't expecting it. I stayed behind in a city I hated to spend more time with him and get to know him. We had a real instant connection and I could see so much in him that was good, but sadly it stayed hidden beneath all the s**t and our relationship ended bad. I do believe it can happen though.

[Leaping Larry Jojo]

I've met a lot of people, but I can't say I've felt anything more than attraction so far. There were people who were special to me in that they made an impact on my life, but I still can't say it was "love." I think I'd know it if I felt it, and I haven't felt it yet.

Interesting, lust-inducing, intriguing, attractive, mysterious...these are words I've used before, but never "love."

Right now I am in a situation that would be described as "intriguing."