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[BeastBoyWonder]

Hmm...you have an interesting dilemma, especially with the cultural and generation clashes that seem to be occuring. My advice would be to wait until at least mid twenties before settling into anything. People still develop and change until then...if you want a happy marriage, you should truly love the person that you are marrying. If you marry at a younger age, even if you genuinly like the girl, you are still changing rapidly, and that could cause problems later on. And if you don't like the person that you are being arranged to marry to, I strongly urge you to try to get out of it as much as possible. This is someone that you are going to be bonded to for the rest of your life...pleasing your parents might seem appealing in the short run, but in the long run it will cause stress and all kinds of problems. My parents' marriage was arranged, and they knew each other for a week before deciding to get married. While they like each other, I feel that this has caused many problems in their relationship...my parents might try to hook me up with someone, but I would flatly refuse. Before I settle down to get married, I want to get to know my future spouse for a few years...I think that 18 is just too young. But that's just me.

[Danielle]

Please keep in mind that I am not an expert in the field of marriage and that I have absolutely know idea what I'm saying. Thank you. :D

Really, all I can say is.......do what you want. *However*, maybe (if you want) you could look into who your parents want {just look! I'm not saying to make a lifetime commitment here!}, and see how that works out. If you don't want to do that, though, then just do whatever you want yourself to do.

Well, that's my advice. Ignore me if you want, I won't mind. ;)

[batboy2001]

Sounds like an interesting problem... It's more or less tradition vs what you really wanna do? I mean, tradition is an important part of culture, then again, if you don't really like the person, what sense is that?? Um, sorry, I don't really have advice. Please see Simpsons ep "Apu's aranged marriage" for further advice. :D

[Failure]

Marry your relatives!? I take it you don't live in the US?

Hmm, the US-centric view to this would be, screw everyone else (including your parents) and do what you want to do, especially concerning something as important and personal as marriage.

But then again, the US is one of the few individualistic cultures in the world, and I understand how this might cause irreparable problems on the family front.

I'm basically gonna reiterate what ragingdrummerboy said (good advice is good advice ;) ) Try to wrestle as much power as you can without causing severe problems with your parents. I think it's a good idea to buy as much time as you can, so you can decide what's best for you.

[Zapages]

I live in the USA...

[adultswimfan]

This may sound kinda sick but, I used to wish I could marry my cousin. I have this one cousin who is very pretty, when I was younger I used to kinda have a crush on her, but I found out later that you can't marry your cousins so that's the end of that.

[Failure]

Originally posted by Zapages
I live in the USA...

Well if it's any consolation, that should take your cousins out of the picture. Unless they're really distant.