Can boys and girls just be friends?

[BLACKHEART]

I was wanting to gather some opinions on this subject. Do you beleive a male and a female can just be friends? This means do things together like friends do. Hang out, go out to eat, whatever.

If either of the two are in a relationship, should the partner worry about their partner having a friend of the opposite sex?

[Clayface]

Can a male and female just be friends? Absolutely.

If either of the two are in a relationship, should the partner worry about their partner having a friend of the opposite sex?

That totally depends on theit maturity level, the level of trust between them, and how reliable the partner is.

[Chris Sanders MSX]

It depends. Whya re they friends ? Because one wanted to hook up but was too scared so decided to start off at the friend level.

For me it depends on if I'm attracted to her and vice versa. Like there's one of my best friends at my school. She's a girl I used to have a crush on her, she developed traits in her personality I don't like and I know there's no hope, plus I no longer like her in that way and she's never liked me that way, because I have traits she's not into. So we are are just friends, we can talk and everything.....

So yeah it's possible.

[sun]

Boys and Girls can just be friends, if boundries are clearly understood....That is the most important part...That both sides have an understanding that there will not be romance here...I have had a number of friend relationship with women, that turn out to really be undiscussed or never completed romantic relationships...Most importantly,,,both must tell the truth about their intentions and feelings, and mean it....If this is not done, then boys and girls, cannot be friends...Believe me, I have been there...Stuart

[Nickdisk]

Originally posted by Clayface
Can a male and female just be friends? Absolutely.

If either of the two are in a relationship, should the partner worry about their partner having a friend of the opposite sex?

That totally depends on theit maturity level, the level of trust between them, and how reliable the partner is.

i agree with that :)

[Chris Sanders MSX]

I have plenty of female friends, alot that I'd..Um..Date at the drop of a hat. I'm sure most of us can agree that even the girls that are our friends are ones we'd "date" wink..wink..nudge..nudge

[Sumi_Masen]

Originally posted by Clayface
Can a male and female just be friends? Absolutely.

If either of the two are in a relationship, should the partner worry about their partner having a friend of the opposite sex?

That totally depends on theit maturity level, the level of trust between them, and how reliable the partner is.


I totally agree with you. :bosko:

[Clayface]

Originally posted by Chris Sanders MSX
I have plenty of female friends, alot that I'd..Um..Date at the drop of a hat. I'm sure most of us can agree that even the girls that are our friends are ones we'd "date" wink..wink..nudge..nudge

Umm, no, actually, I wouldn't agree. When I was younger, yeah. But now, I'm happily taken, and I've got plenty of female friends I don't think of in that way.

[Chris Sanders MSX]

Originally posted by Clayface


Umm, no, actually, I wouldn't agree. When I was younger, yeah. But now, I'm happily taken, and I've got plenty of female friends I don't think of in that way.

That's why I said MOST. I lokked up and saw you posteda nd took special note to know I said most.

[Clayface]

Originally posted by Chris Sanders MSX


That's why I said MOST. I looked up and saw you posted and took special note to know I said most.

Hehe. Gotcha. Though I'd still disagree with the "most" part. ;)

[Watagashi]

Of course. :) Razorblade and I have been best friends since the second grade and still are and we've been just that. But I do agree with Clayface on his statement, too.

[Dark Spider]

I agree, guys and gals can be friends. You don't have to have a relationship with every person of the opposite sex you come in contact with. If the whole world was like that, there would be alot of chaos.

And about the relationship question, I agree that there needs to be a sense of maturity and trust. There is something wrong with a couple that worries that their partner is with other people.

[Joe Tully]

I'm not really sure about this one way or the other. You can always take a note from Freud and argue that even if you consciously don't want to go out with someone, there's that subconscious attraction to them, even if it's very, very subtle. I've seen plenty of men and women flirt with one another even if they wouldn't admit that they're attracted to each other if you asked them. If you ask most people about this, they brush it off as "just kidding around," but it obviously has some meaning deeper than that. I want to believe that it's possible for men and women to just be friends, but I'm just too skeptical about people to honestly feel that's true, if you consider the "just friends" concept on a subconscious level. I think that relationships have a lot of subtext to them, even if the people involved aren't even aware of it.

[Majin_Megabyte]

I also agree boys and girls can just be friends,and I'm friends with like 4 girls.

[Lucky Bob]

Sure! A lot of my best friends are girls! I've always thought that even though there are obvious differences between the genders, they are still human beings, and perfectly capable of verbal communication. (Some more than others!) Sure, I'm planning for a relationship, but that comes much later. For now, I just wanna enjoy being friends.

[The Game]

Can they be friends? Well, yes.

If the guy is gay or the girl is hideously ugly.

No, just kidding, they can be, but it's not always the easiest thing. I mean, for most heterosexual guys its hard not to look at a good looking girl in a non-sexual way, so its hard to be "just friends" they way that guys are friends with guys and girls are friends with girls. Plus, whenever a guy and a girl are really close one always has a crush on they other. You know its true.

-The Game

[Lucky Bob]

Originally posted by The Game

No, just kidding, they can be, but it's not always the easiest thing. I mean, for most heterosexual guys its hard not to look at a good looking girl in a non-sexual way, so its hard to be "just friends" they way that guys are friends with guys and girls are friends with girls. Plus, whenever a guy and a girl are really close one always has a crush on they other. You know its true.


It's my rule of thumb: "Look, but don't touch." You can't help your hormones, but you can help your actions.

[The Game]

Originally posted by luckybob1985


It's my rule of thumb: "Look, but don't touch." You can't help your hormones, but you can help your actions.

Well you can try to. ;)

-The Game

[Kuro-Neko]

Of course boys and girls can just be friends,silly :p

[Lucky Bob]

Originally posted by The Game


Well you can try to. ;)

-The Game

There is no try! Do, or do not!

[Mattashell]

No. I've had many female friends and they all turned out to be after the same thing. And they were all ugly.

The second question. Absolutely!

[Chris Sanders MSX]

No, just kidding, they can be, but it's not always the easiest thing. I mean, for most heterosexual guys its hard not to look at a good looking girl in a non-sexual way, so its hard to be "just friends" they way that guys are friends with guys and girls are friends with girls. Plus, whenever a guy and a girl are really close one always has a crush on they other. You know its true.

I totally agree. Like I'd say 94 % of all my female friends are ones I have a slight crush on, some I find something I just don't like and that goes away. And I know some girls are my friend just because they know there's hope we could hook up.

For example my Ex-Girlfriends cousin.. While i was dating her cousin we were distant and rarely talked but sophmore year after we broke up, she's flirting with me and talking to me all the time. We are just friends but she started the friendship and I know why.

[BLACKHEART]

I like the Game's thinking ;)

Has anyone ever had a friend of the opposite sex that has caused their relationship to end? Whether it was your partner not trusting 1 or both of you or just got sick of the headaches and the partner being jealous all the time.

[Barb Gordon]

hmmm, nope, never had that problem. And can guys and girls can be just friends? absolutely. The majority of my friends are guys, and we've never had problems with being more or less than that. Yes I have had a friend who became a boyfriend, but that's because we both wanted that. I've had other friends who have wanted to be something more, but because I didn't feel the same way, nothing happened. They were okay with that, and our friendship is even stronger....of course, if you have a gay guy as a friend, you'll never have to worry about him wanting to be more than friends! Then again....you'll have to worry about him hitting on your straight guys friends....

~Barb

[Terminatah]

I have close friends who are attractive females, but I never tried to date them. We're friends for the same reasons I'm friends with all my male friends.

Oh, and I guess this is on topic. It's from MAXIM:

"Sex between friends doesn't have to mess things up. You can keep being friends, and sex can be kind of a benefit." - Tara Reid

-Terminatah

[BLACKHEART]

She was with Carson Dally so that explains the quote ;)

[DR. BELCH]

My mother always tells me that good friends make the best lovers. And i've always been more comfortable with girls I got to know first that with those I never started a firm foundation of friendship with before it got to the--you know. But I'm also dense, so if one of you girls wants to go to the next level with me, don't be subtle about saying so. I pretty much have to be grabbed by the cojones to get the message. :rolleyes:

[cjshoup]

Absolutely.

I had a few female friends in high school.

If you get into a arguement, it is easier to patch up.

[Spooky05]

can girls and guys be friends? yes. can two lesbian girls be friends? yes. can two gay guys be friends? yes. it all depends on who the person is and how close you are and how close you intend to get.

in a relationship, should a partner worry about their significant other's friendships with the opposite sex? once again, it depends on who the person is and how close they are with their friends. but don't be too paranoid. a key to being in a relationship with someone is trusting the other person.

[Chris Sanders MSX]

Originally posted by SLIPKNOT
I like the Game's thinking ;)

Has anyone ever had a friend of the opposite sex that has caused their relationship to end? Whether it was your partner not trusting 1 or both of you or just got sick of the headaches and the partner being jealous all the time.



Well i was the one who had all the jelousy. And i got sick of her crap and obviousness so i dumped her.

[Danielle]

Friendly acquaintances? Certainly. Good friends? ........I don't really think so. I don't like many of the boys around here much anyway. :D {My opinion! *My* opinion! Not necessarily the *right* opinion!}

[BLACKHEART]

For some reason I always get it thrown back in my face if I have a friend who is a girl.

[Carnage]

Of course guys and girls can be just friends! If they enjoy being with each other just because they have a lot in common and enjoy haning out with each other then why ruin it by getting into a relationship? Of course, I didn't always think like this, the natural tendency when a guy and girl start hanging out together a lot is for them to become more than friends, but things change, and I'm glad that I haven't become more than friends when I wanted to, it's made the friendship I have with my friend that much stronger
As far as one person being in a relationship and then having another friend of the opposite sex, well I don't see why that can't work either. The couple should trust each other and if one person won't let the other have friends just because of the other person's sex, then something is wrong.

Carnage

[The Game]

Originally posted by Terminatah

"Sex between friends doesn't have to mess things up. You can keep being friends, and sex can be kind of a benefit." - Tara Reid


That's what I keep telling all my hot friends that are girls, but they just won't give in...

-The Game

[BLACKHEART]

I always give the Bill Clinton reason to my girlfriend for the fun with friends idea ;) She probably thinks I cheat on her all the time anyway.

[Chris Sanders MSX]

It depends on what your definition of "hang out" is.

[BLACKHEART]

How about going out to eat?

[The Game]

I define hanging out as in being around them, like in your free time. The people who you hang out with are the people you eat lunch with, the people you meet up with on Friday and Saturdays, the people you see movies with, etc.

For me, those are mainly guys, but I hang out with the ladies every once and awhile. I'm just not close friends with them, that's all.

-The Game

[Chris Sanders MSX]

By that defintion then I'd have to say all my friends are guys. I only do that kind of stuff with girlfriends and friends of girlfriends.

[optimal321]

Yeah, why not? It really sucks sometimes, but yeah.

[BLACKHEART]

Yeah when I think about it. She is just someone I talk to and waste time with. Not a true friend.

[Joe Wagner]

Interesting question - I know that a lot of my friends in high school and to this day were girls but very few of them have I ever wanted a relationship with. I think it's completely possible that a girl and guy can be friends but at the same time I think there is a line that shouldn't be crossed. I think that if a friend knows that a person is in a relationship then they shouldn't try and break them up - unless of course the person is completely unhappy.

I know that when my girlfriend and I first started dating a lot of people told her that she shouldn't go out with me - including both of her best friends at the time. I had never realized I had so many enemies :eek: Another friend even flirted with her and almost lost an arm (but that's another story). Luckily I know that my girlfriend wouldn't cheat on me with anyone else (except for David Boreanaz) and I have no problem with her hanging out with her friends.

-Joe!

[BLACKHEART]

Angel mania has taken the soul of another I see.

[Joe Wagner]

Originally posted by SLIPKNOT
Angel mania has taken the soul of another I see.

Yes - he's held my girlfriends since his first appearance on Buffy. I take it yours has had a similar experience?

-Joe!

[BLACKHEART]

Yes what a small world but not anymore. It could be that I am constantly making fun of him. She had his calendar and a poster hahaha.

[a.k.a. Skarr~~]

I have a lot of friends that are girls and I'm a boy! (no their not girlfriends, just friends) I wouldn't care if any of them had a boyfriend!

[BLACKHEART]

Do you have a girlfriend?

[deleatur]

Originally posted by SLIPKNOT
I was wanting to gather some opinions on this subject. Do you beleive a male and a female can just be friends? This means do things together like friends do. Hang out, go out to eat, whatever.

Yes, for sure they can.

If either of the two are in a relationship, should the partner worry about their partner having a friend of the opposite sex?


No. Not unless they have some pretty solid evidence that proves otherwise.