Bad parenting, or "All about crappy parents topic"

[Keiji Dragon]

Meh.

Last month, I was in the library at my college campus using the computers, there was this black dude sitting next to me looking at freaking Usher or something with his 2-3 year old son. The kid keeps asking about his mother and starts complaining, father tells him to shut up "Yo' mama's with yo' outha mama", and then the kid starts whining. He calmly whispers to the kid, "Shut the f**k up, I said shut the f**k up", and then "Want me to pop you in the f**king mouth?", kid get ferocious, slams the keyboard, and then SMAAASH!! Father pops the kids mouth and screams at the kid who, at this point, starts crying very faintly, then outright brawls like a lion. The dad then proceeds to grab him by the arms and heads toward the exit (and as they exited the building by the door, starts dragging him by the hair. :ack:) with everyone around watching the scene. I didn't see no cops around, now that I think about.

Any unfortunate sightings or stories about sad-excuse mommies and daddies beating their kids, or just bad parenting you wish to share?

[TyUnlimited]

Meh.

Last month, I was in the library at my college campus using the computers, there was this black dude sitting next to me looking at freaking Usher or something with his 2-3 year old son. The kid keeps asking about his mother and starts complaining, father tells him to shut up "Yo' mama's with yo' outha mama", and then the kid starts whining. He calmly whispers to the kid, "Shut the f**k up, I said shut the f**k up", and then "Want me to pop you in the f**king mouth?", kid get ferocious, slams the keyboard, and then SMAAASH!! Father pops the kids mouth and screams at the kid who, at this point, starts crying very faintly, then outright brawls like a lion. The dad then proceeds to grab him by the arms and heads toward the exit (and as they exited the building by the door, starts dragging him by the hair. :ack:) with everyone around watching the scene. I didn't see no cops around, now that I think about.

Any unfortunate sightings or stories about sad-excuse mommies and daddies beating their kids, or just bad parenting you wish to share?


That's.... messed up. I mean, popping him would've been the best thing to do, but I wouldn't necessarily say in the mouth...

I once saw this dad pick his child up by his throat, lifting him very high up, as the dad was huge. I was younger, probably around the same age as the kid. Around 6. Seeing that happened frightened me a little bit. When I remember it, (but it's rare) I think of what I would do if I had see that happen today, when I'm bigger and know more.

[Antiyonder]

On one of my bus rides, I recall a passenger (the mom) who was upset that the bus systems didn't take precaution for keeping children seated and gave the bus driver a hard time when her kid got up from his seat.

[PRdude]

Meh.

Last month, I was in the library at my college campus using the computers, there was this black dude sitting next to me looking at freaking Usher or something with his 2-3 year old son. The kid keeps asking about his mother and starts complaining, father tells him to shut up "Yo' mama's with yo' outha mama", and then the kid starts whining. He calmly whispers to the kid, "Shut the f**k up, I said shut the f**k up", and then "Want me to pop you in the f**king mouth?", kid get ferocious, slams the keyboard, and then SMAAASH!! Father pops the kids mouth and screams at the kid who, at this point, starts crying very faintly, then outright brawls like a lion. The dad then proceeds to grab him by the arms and heads toward the exit (and as they exited the building by the door, starts dragging him by the hair. :ack:) with everyone around watching the scene. I didn't see no cops around, now that I think about.

Any unfortunate sightings or stories about sad-excuse mommies and daddies beating their kids, or just bad parenting you wish to share?

This is why I usually get uneasy when I'm around kids these days.

I have this co-worker who said she'd kick her daughter's ass if she had lost a fight. It's also annoying that the vast majority of her stories involving her daughter seem to involve disciplining her. (The same goes for my other co-workers who have kids.) Some years back, she actually asked me about going out with her one weekend, as well as her daughter, and see a movie. I had to say no, because I didn't want to end up seeing things that might make me want to drill a hole in my brain to get the memories out. Maybe it wouldn't have been so bad, but I just wasn't in the mood to take chances. Besides, I avoid getting personal with co-workers anyway.

She also mentioned getting upset at her daughter, who's now around ten, for declining to have her picture taken with Santa at a mall, along with her one-year old, as she claims she's too old for that. Just face it, lady. Your "baby" is growing up. The cat's out of the bag. She has already figured out that there's no such damn thing as Santa. So get the hell real.

This is also the same person who couldn't understand just why putting your kids in the trunk of your car while driving is considered child endangerment. That's what one idiot lady did to discipline her kids, and got in trouble for it. Said co-worker actually said "it's better than killing them". Um, hello. They could SUFFOCATE. Also, they could also get badly injured if she had gotten rear-ended too. Some other co-workers actually agreed with her, and even thought it was funny. I just can't describe in words just how mad some people make me. It makes me want to beat the parents, instead of the kids.

So now you know why I'd avoid situations like this. Especially with this person, and my other co-workers. Even so, I'd make exceptions for certain people. Like one of my friends who used to volunteer with me on pet adoption days and always bring her daughter along, who was ten. She's well-behaved for the most part, so I don't mind the idea of hanging with them if given the chance.

People are stupid, it's not my fault. People are stupid, it's not my fault. People are stupid, it's not my fault. People are stupid, it's not my fault.

[Sapphire Sky]

That's really terrible, I hate seeing things like that...

I think I remember a few similar but not as bad as the one you mentioned.

One was at this basketball place, this girl wanted to try something and the mother just starts yelling at her and she's not allowed to do that, the girl started to cry and then she just grabbed that girl by the ears and dragged her outside screaming. I was thinking, geesh she only wanted to try throwing in the ball or something.

And another time , this happened on the train and this young girl probably wasn't behaving and her mother got this shoe and hit her over the head a few times, surprisingly that kid didn't even scream, cry or anything. It's almost like she was used to it.

BUT that being said, I have still seen in many situations where parents are VERY caring to the kids, like they talk, laugh with them. I always like it when i come across those .

[Dub C]

Not a 'borderline chuld abuse' situation, but I remember leaving Target one day heading to my car in the parking lot. I then see this guy tossing his infant child high into the air, like playing catch with it...now, the child was laughing, so it was obviously enjoying it, but as I was walking past my whole thought process was "Please don't let this man drop his kid on the pavement!" I was like, why do that in a place as unsafe as a parking lot, and at night no less.

[TKnHappyNess]

If you want to talk about bad parenting, one name comes to mind if you've heard about the story or live in Canada: Brandon Crisp. He was 15 years old, and frequently played Call of Duty 4 on the 360. His parents threatened to take it away, so he ran off on Thanksgiving (Canadian). A few weeks later, they found his body and the autopsy showed he died of injuries that were consistent with falling from a tree. I say his parents are partly to blame for his death because had they actually read the ESRB rating on CoD4, they wouldn't have bought him the game. You DO NOT buy M rated games for kids 17 and under, and then use them as a scapegoat to hide the fact that you're bad parents.

[Cartoonlover]

Meh.

Last month, I was in the library at my college campus using the computers, there was this black dude sitting next to me looking at freaking Usher or something with his 2-3 year old son. The kid keeps asking about his mother and starts complaining, father tells him to shut up "Yo' mama's with yo' outha mama", and then the kid starts whining. He calmly whispers to the kid, "Shut the f**k up, I said shut the f**k up", and then "Want me to pop you in the f**king mouth?", kid get ferocious, slams the keyboard, and then SMAAASH!! Father pops the kids mouth and screams at the kid who, at this point, starts crying very faintly, then outright brawls like a lion. The dad then proceeds to grab him by the arms and heads toward the exit (and as they exited the building by the door, starts dragging him by the hair. :ack:) with everyone around watching the scene. I didn't see no cops around, now that I think about.

Any unfortunate sightings or stories about sad-excuse mommies and daddies beating their kids, or just bad parenting you wish to share?

:mad: My gosh, I hope that man goes to prison for a long time. My prayers with all of the children, this breaks my heart.

[ChibiGoku]

God, why did someone have to open this topic up? I have a ton of stories regarding this... That are about me or my sisters. I'll probably tell you guys one of the least of the terrible ones.

I remember one christmas one year, which was a number of years ago. I was waiting excitingly for my christmas present, because I honestly thought I was getting something amazing. I was allowed to open the present a day early, so I went for the one I thought that they had listened to me to get. Instead, I got this... CD Burner (or was it DVD?), which I had no interest (and really don't use it still, which I have now two DVD burners). I was pretty upset and walked away. Somehow, it went from that to my dad threatening to beat the living crap out of me and chasing me around the house. He even freaking pinned me up against a wall and punched me in the face before just dropping me (how I even let him get that close to me, I don't remember. Everything's a bit vague here).

Maybe I did deserve to get yelled at, but what he did went too far. However, I can unfortunately say this is not the worst thing he's done to me or my sisters (or mother). Infact, he's done some things to me that I really wish I didn't remember...

This isn't a crappy father or parent. This is a freaking abusive father who has anger problems, who refuses to admit that he has them. I'm still living with him too, simply because in my current mental state, I really can't hold a job or go live on my own (although, I've tried to apply for a job). He still does things, too...

he funny thing is that I know he wasn't always like that, because I can remember him being sound with me, my sisters and mother up until I was about 8. Honestly, after that, he seemed to get more aggressive.

This would be the point where I'd ask for advice, but I don't want to derail the topic. Just I can relate when it comes to this....

Seriously though, to Keiji's story, I just hope someone does something for that child's sake and gets that guy locked up. I really do...

[Czar Gato]

If you want to talk about bad parenting, one name comes to mind if you've heard about the story or live in Canada: Brandon Crisp. He was 15 years old, and frequently played Call of Duty 4 on the 360. His parents threatened to take it away, so he ran off on Thanksgiving (Canadian). A few weeks later, they found his body and the autopsy showed he died of injuries that were consistent with falling from a tree. I say his parents are partly to blame for his death because had they actually read the ESRB rating on CoD4, they wouldn't have bought him the game. You DO NOT buy M rated games for kids 17 and under, and then use them as a scapegoat to hide the fact that you're bad parents.
Did the parents buy him the game, or did he go out and buy it himself? As tragic as that case sounds, I disagree that his parents exercising their right to police what games their underage son played with constitutes as "bad parenting". And granted I'm not familiar with this case, but what was the reason they threatened to take the game away? There are many reasons why parents threaten such things; my own parents used to take away privileges when I was a kid for bad behavior and poor grades.

[Dr.Pepper]

Last month, I was in the library at my college campus using the computers, there was this black dude sitting next to me looking at freaking Usher or something with his 2-3 year old son. The kid keeps asking about his mother and starts complaining, father tells him to shut up "Yo' mama's with yo' outha mama", and then the kid starts whining. He calmly whispers to the kid, "Shut the f**k up, I said shut the f**k up", and then "Want me to pop you in the f**king mouth?", kid get ferocious, slams the keyboard, and then SMAAASH!! Father pops the kids mouth and screams at the kid who, at this point, starts crying very faintly, then outright brawls like a lion. The dad then proceeds to grab him by the arms and heads toward the exit (and as they exited the building by the door, starts dragging him by the hair. :ack:) with everyone around watching the scene. I didn't see no cops around, now that I think about.

This makes me sad. I wish that dad goes to jail and the kid goes to someone who cares about him:crying:

[PRdude]

This makes me sad. I wish that dad goes to jail and the kid goes to someone who cares about him:crying:

Well, as sad as that is, I don't think it's really that serious. I'd just hope that the father had since thought it over, and realized that he went overboard. Then he can just try to improve.

[DarthGonzo]

Well, as sad as that is, I don't think it's really that serious. I'd just hope that the father had since thought it over, and realized that he went overboard. Then he can just try to improve.

And that's always preferable to dragging a child away from his parent(s) and forcing him/her to adjust to a new living situation, which isn't always healthy for a kid.

[Dr.Pepper]

Off-topic, but I wonder what the guy meant when he said "Yo' mama's with yo' outha mama". Is he saying the kid's mom was with a stepmom or grandma or something?

[ChibiGoku]

Off-topic, but I wonder what the guy meant when he said "Yo' mama's with yo' outha mama". Is he saying the kid's mom was with a stepmom or grandma or something?

Not that's really relavent to the topic... but maybe she's bisexual? :sweat:

Really wonder myself...

[Cartoonlover]

God, why did someone have to open this topic up? I have a ton of stories regarding this... That are about me or my sisters. I'll probably tell you guys one of the least of the terrible ones.

I remember one christmas one year, which was a number of years ago. I was waiting excitingly for my christmas present, because I honestly thought I was getting something amazing. I was allowed to open the present a day early, so I went for the one I thought that they had listened to me to get. Instead, I got this... CD Burner (or was it DVD?), which I had no interest (and really don't use it still, which I have now two DVD burners). I was pretty upset and walked away. Somehow, it went from that to my dad threatening to beat the living crap out of me and chasing me around the house. He even freaking pinned me up against a wall and punched me in the face before just dropping me (how I even let him get that close to me, I don't remember. Everything's a bit vague here).

Maybe I did deserve to get yelled at, but what he did went too far. However, I can unfortunately say this is not the worst thing he's done to me or my sisters (or mother). Infact, he's done some things to me that I really wish I didn't remember...

This isn't a crappy father or parent. This is a freaking abusive father who has anger problems, who refuses to admit that he has them. I'm still living with him too, simply because in my current mental state, I really can't hold a job or go live on my own (although, I've tried to apply for a job). He still does things, too...

he funny thing is that I know he wasn't always like that, because I can remember him being sound with me, my sisters and mother up until I was about 8. Honestly, after that, he seemed to get more aggressive.

This would be the point where I'd ask for advice, but I don't want to derail the topic. Just I can relate when it comes to this....

Seriously though, to Keiji's story, I just hope someone does something for that child's sake and gets that guy locked up. I really do...

I am so very sorry. :crying: If you can move out, this man should noot be anywhere near you. I really.... don't know what to say. Get him a counsellor, get help, or even a jail cell, he crossed the line. This thread is so sad.

[DarthGonzo]

I am so very sorry. :crying: If you can move out, this man should noot be anywhere near you. I really.... don't know what to say. Get him a counsellor, get help, or even a jail cell, he crossed the line. This thread is so sad.

Is it possible there's more to this story than you've told us? Just asking, because usually when people post horror stories like this there's always a key element that is usually left out, which is often the thing that puts it all in perspective.

[Martianinvader]

He's never actually beat me, but my stepdad is the most annoying, inconsiderate, loud, clueless idiot I have ever had to deal with. And it's going on 16 years soon....

It's snowing right now and the freezing temperature is supposed to stick for a week. We have frozen lasagna in the freezer but only for one day. Luckily, the pizza place next door is open, so I told him "we should get dinner from there tonight and save the lasagna for when no other place is open." He exploded at me and yelled about how stupid I was, because I was "worrying about tomorrow." He ordered me to unfreeze the lasagna TODAY. I'm a little nervous leaving my immediate future -- and my mother's -- in the hands of this guy.

The thing is, he's been diagnosed with dementia, so anything he does is not "technically" his fault, but man. He yells at my mom every single day, and over the smallest things. He gives me the same treatment, only worse since he's not married to me. All I can say is, he's very lucky to have my mom because anybody else would have left him years ago.

What I'm most scared of is developing some of his behavior patterns after living with him for so long. I don't ever want to treat anyone the way he treats me.

[DarthGonzo]

What I'm most scared of is developing some of his behavior patterns after living with him for so long. I don't ever want to treat anyone the way he treats me.

I wouldn't worry about that. Your a smart, intelligent guy. Just learn from his negative example and you'll be fine.

[Brandon Pierce]

I have this co-worker who said she'd kick her daughter's ass if she had lost a fight.
Are you saying she would kick her daughter's ass if she lost an ARGUMENT with her daughter, that is to say if her daughter proved her wrong about something?

See, that's something about parents I hate. If you have an argument, or prove them wrong about something, or try to play things at their own game they try to punish you for it. It's like they're pissed that they've "lost control" over you. HELLO! That's not what parenting is about, dipschticks!

This is also the same person who couldn't understand just why putting your kids in the trunk of your car while driving is considered child endangerment. That's what one idiot lady did to discipline her kids, and got in trouble for it. Said co-worker actually said "it's better than killing them". Um, hello. They could SUFFOCATE. Also, they could also get badly injured if she had gotten rear-ended too. Some other co-workers actually agreed with her, and even thought it was funny. I just can't describe in words just how mad some people make me. It makes me want to beat the parents, instead of the kids.
On TruTV's "World's Dumbest", they showed a woman who put her kids in her back trunk, only because she had just bought something big and expensive from the store, and there was no room for it, and putting it in the trunk would damge it so.... she put her kids (including a young baby) in the trunk.

[ChibiGoku]

Is it possible there's more to this story than you've told us? Just asking, because usually when people post horror stories like this there's always a key element that is usually left out, which is often the thing that puts it all in perspective.

I really wish I could say yes that I left something out, but I'm not... I can understand you being suspicious of this though.



See, that's something about parents I hate. If you have an argument, or prove them wrong about something, or try to play things at their own game they try to punish you for it. It's like they're pissed that they've "lost control" over you. HELLO! That's not what parenting is about, dipschticks!


Oh jeez. I've experience this when I was younger. I usually want to know why I can't do something or the reason I've gotten in trouble, or something else. Mostly because I'm curious and I need a good reason for it for me to understand, otherwise it'll seriously bug me. It almost always got me into worse trouble. Usually they would just tell me "Because we said so". Thankfully none of the cases resulted in my dad physically harming me though (from what I can remember).

[Rolling Cloud]

See, that's something about parents I hate. If you have an argument, or prove them wrong about something, or try to play things at their own game they try to punish you for it. It's like they're pissed that they've "lost control" over you. HELLO! That's not what parenting is about, dipschticks!

Sounds like my dad. /:
I'd be like "What'd I do wrong?" & then usually wind up getting screamed at.

[Shawn Hopkins]

Get yourself together and move out. Seriously, that's the only thing to do. I'm aware that you said you have mental problems, but there are people with serious disabilities such as blindness and mental retardation who live independent lives and if they can do it, so can you.

God, why did someone have to open this topic up? I have a ton of stories regarding this... That are about me or my sisters. I'll probably tell you guys one of the least of the terrible ones.

I remember one christmas one year, which was a number of years ago. I was waiting excitingly for my christmas present, because I honestly thought I was getting something amazing. I was allowed to open the present a day early, so I went for the one I thought that they had listened to me to get. Instead, I got this... CD Burner (or was it DVD?), which I had no interest (and really don't use it still, which I have now two DVD burners). I was pretty upset and walked away. Somehow, it went from that to my dad threatening to beat the living crap out of me and chasing me around the house. He even freaking pinned me up against a wall and punched me in the face before just dropping me (how I even let him get that close to me, I don't remember. Everything's a bit vague here).

Maybe I did deserve to get yelled at, but what he did went too far. However, I can unfortunately say this is not the worst thing he's done to me or my sisters (or mother). Infact, he's done some things to me that I really wish I didn't remember...

This isn't a crappy father or parent. This is a freaking abusive father who has anger problems, who refuses to admit that he has them. I'm still living with him too, simply because in my current mental state, I really can't hold a job or go live on my own (although, I've tried to apply for a job). He still does things, too...

he funny thing is that I know he wasn't always like that, because I can remember him being sound with me, my sisters and mother up until I was about 8. Honestly, after that, he seemed to get more aggressive.

This would be the point where I'd ask for advice, but I don't want to derail the topic. Just I can relate when it comes to this....

Seriously though, to Keiji's story, I just hope someone does something for that child's sake and gets that guy locked up. I really do...

[TKnHappyNess]

Did the parents buy him the game, or did he go out and buy it himself? As tragic as that case sounds, I disagree that his parents exercising their right to police what games their underage son played with constitutes as "bad parenting". And granted I'm not familiar with this case, but what was the reason they threatened to take the game away? There are many reasons why parents threaten such things; my own parents used to take away privileges when I was a kid for bad behavior and poor grades.

Kids under 17 can't go and purchase an M rated game, despite what Jack "Disbarred" Thompson said. So he had to get it somehow, and the parents were the most likely candidates. The reason why they threatened to take it away is because he frequently played it. He skipped school, woke up early when everybody else would be sleeping, and his game of choice was CoD 4. After he disappeared, the parents kept insisting that somebody from his buddy list on XBox Live met up with him and kidnapped him.