what does the line " be yourself" means to u?

[cheeno]

I never get to understand this line,for instance,if a guy likes playing video games all the time but when his friends came over to play football,and then he changes himself forcefully to not play video games and instead play football,but if he " be's himself" and keeps on playing video games regardless of the note that his friends are here,wouldn't his friends start hating him?
??HELP ME!!

[SSJPabs]

I never get to understand this line,for instance,if a guy likes playing video games all the time but when his friends came over to play football,and then he changes himself forcefully to not play video games and instead play football,but if he " be's himself" and keeps on playing video games regardless of the note that his friends are here,wouldn't his friends start hating him?
??HELP ME!!This one is not too hard actually. Look, if the guy plays games when they want to do something else he has to think is the "himself" he wants to be someone who blows off his friends regularly? If he wants the person he really is to be a good friend, then he wouldn't do that. Life's full of little trade offs like that.

[cheeno]

Now that was the answer I was looking for.I have other questions in my mind:

number 1 how do u gain confedence and how to make good friends?how to stop being " shy"?

[Dr. OneWay]

Now that was the answer I was looking for.I have other questions in my mind:

number 1 how do u gain confedence and how to make good friends?how to stop being " shy"?

Hummm, I have the same problem. I've found that my "shyness" has lessened when I am more open to people. Dont automatically eliminate possible friends, such as "Oh, they are jocks, so they are gonna be jackasses", or "they are goth, so they must smoke". Have open eyes, and be open to possibilities. I tried this, and it has seemed to be working quite nicely.

[Dark Fact]

There's a time to be yourself, and there's a time to put yourself aside for the respect of others. It's up to you to decide when's the best course of action.

[RD!]

The question is, really, what is the defenition of yourself? If you have the ability to become different people around different people what is your true self? All you'll ever be is what other people think of you. When you're alone you're nothing because there's no one to reflect with. You're not witty because you're telling people jokes. You're not nice because you're not interacting. You're nothing.

This is the same answer to the question "If A Tree Falls in the Woods and No One is Around Does it Make A Sound?" Who are you when you're not around? A tree can't make a sound because there is no one there to hear it, and you can't be anything because there is no one there to judge you.

[Anniemaniac]

Now that was the answer I was looking for.I have other questions in my mind:

number 1 how do u gain confedence and how to make good friends?how to stop being " shy"?

Force yourself to interact with people, I know its extremely hard, but its the only way. It takes a while, its not gonna happen over night, and it'll get worse before it gets easier (least it did for me) but keep at it and it'll help. The best thing for me was when i started college. I had a really good tutor who was aware of my severe shyness and really did everything she could to help. If you're in college, then i'd suggest that you have a talk to one of your tutors and let them know how shy you are, and hopefully they'll do everything they can to help ya.

I used to be (and still am but im improving fast) painfully shy, i wouldnt open the door or answer the phone to anyone, i used to run upstairs and hide in my room every time there was a visitor (pathetic i know...) and i'd blush if someone even said "hi" to me but since ive been going to college and ive had to force my self to interact with people, its become easier.

You should try Joining a club or something, getting a job, or going to college (that is, if you dont already do these things).Like i said it's hard, but it works. And as Catdogfan said, be open to new people even if they dont look like the kinda person you'd usually pick for a friend.

[The Falcon]

it's like that initial jump off the diving board as a kid. it is for me anyway. i used to be scared of swimming and heights. not to the point of spazzing and freaking out, but i still preferred not to be in water or in high places. anyway, sometimes you just have to take the plunge and do it. in this case, jumping off the diving board. i now love to swim... still hate heights, though. i belly flopped, ok?

that's how you get confidence. just go ahead and do it. afraid of talking to somebody you find interesting? force yourself to say hello. i bet they'd like a good conversation. or you can do what i do and make a bit of a joke out of it. "umm... hi. listen. i'm really shy and don't know how to approach talking to you, so here i am." got me a date one time! ;)

as for being yourself... your friends like football. you like video games. play some madden! lol. just kidding. some friendships take sacrifices. that's what make friendships so special, because of friends willing to give something up to make the friendship last. it forms a bond. so, go play some football with your friends and i bet as a cool down activity, they'd love to play some multiplayer with you

[cheeno]

thanks guys for all you who contributed and I have a few other questions.How to believe in your self?How to be sure that what u're doing is right?!& be yourself,from the inside or the outside?or both?

[Gatomon41]

Could be a problem when one does not who oneself is, like myself :sad:

[cheeno]

someone help me,I'm so confused!!:crying:

[Master Moron]

I never get to understand this line,for instance,if a guy likes playing video games all the time but when his friends came over to play football,and then he changes himself forcefully to not play video games and instead play football,but if he " be's himself" and keeps on playing video games regardless of the note that his friends are here,wouldn't his friends start hating him?
??HELP ME!!

"Be yourself" is what the most useless advice ever given in the history of the world. If being yourself hasn't worked the first 20 years of your life, what makes you think it will work for the next 20? If you have a problem in your life, then you need to change something. I seriously don't even understand why people give such useless advice as "be yourself." Not only is it completely unhelpful, but it can actually be harmful in that it reinforces negative behavior.

[Mr. Pedro]

"Be yourself"

To me, this means not putting yourself at the mercy of the capricious whims of others. This doesn't mean rebellion or disobedience or anything like that; it just means you gotta have a little bit of integrity.

[cheeno]

"Be yourself"

To me, this means not putting yourself at the mercy of the capricious whims of others. This doesn't mean rebellion or disobedience or anything like that; it just means you gotta have a little bit of integrity.

I still dont get it...:crying:

[90'sCartoonMan]

someone help me,I'm so confused!!:crying:

Cheeno, I take it that you're a teenager, right? Everyone goes through that time when identity is confusing because they're introduced to so many new people and concepts that they aren't sure what to identify with.

I kind of agree with Master Moron, the "be yourself" advice line is a simple answer to a complicated situation.

Like Pedro said, you have to start off with what you are and what you know, but at the same time, be open to trying new things. You'll begin to like things you didn't think you'd like and some of the things you used to like won't appeal to you as much anymore. Don't worry, that's natural.

I'm not advising you to compromise your morals or to do anything really bad, but you've got to try out lots of new things until you can figure out what it is you like and what it is you don't like. To tell you the truth, you can't always tell what's bad and what isn't until you've done it. Trust your intuition, but don't stop yourself from doing something just because you're scared. And don't close yourself off to things until you've tried them a few times.

After all, we become who we are by how we react to various events and stimuli over our lives.

[cheeno]

Cheeno, I take it that you're a teenager, right? Everyone goes through that time when identity is confusing because they're introduced to so many new people and concepts that they aren't sure what to identify with.

I kind of agree with Master Moron, the "be yourself" advice line is a simple answer to a complicated situation.

Like Pedro said, you have to start off with what you are and what you know, but at the same time, be open to trying new things. You'll begin to like things you didn't think you'd like and some of the things you used to like won't appeal to you as much anymore. Don't worry, that's natural.

I'm not advising you to compromise your morals or to do anything really bad, but you've got to try out lots of new things until you can figure out what it is you like and what it is you don't like. To tell you the truth, you can't always tell what's bad and what isn't until you've done it. Trust your intuition, but don't stop yourself from doing something just because you're scared. And don't close yourself off to things until you've tried them a few times.

After all, we become who we are by how we react to various events and stimuli over our lives.

Finally,something does gets to my brain!!Thanks a lot!And u're right,I'm a teenager.I will definitely follow your advise.

[Jex]

You can't always be yourself. You have to change sometimes and it's not always to get new friends or try to act 'cool'. You could be doing someone a favor or just change for the better. You have to who you and the people you love and trust find most comfortable. You can't be insecure if you want to live a good life. And that's the point to life right? feeling good?