Rejection.

[Phantasm]

I just recieved a rejection letter from the school around which I'd based all of my hopes and dreams for the past year.*sigh* :crying:

So has anyone else been through this? If so, how did you deal with it and dig yourself out?

[Justice League 2000]

I deal with rejection Many times but I am still Happy:)

[RD!]

I aimed low and saw no disappointment.

[Scorpio_G]

I just recieved a rejection letter from the school around which I'd based all of my hopes and dreams for the past year.*sigh* :crying:

So has anyone else been through this? If so, how did you deal with it and dig yourself out?
I'm 21 so I've delt with my fair share of rejection and loserdom for time to time. For instance when I enrolled in my first art competition I loss but I didnt cry about it or moped about it I just said "Oh well." and I promised myself I'll get better at it.

Another time in my life I tried enrolling in LaGuardia High School of the Arts. Sounds familiar? It's a prestegious art school for the HS level. Lots of fameous allumini and lots of kids enroll. When I was in eighth grade I tried to enroll in the school for the Arts and I didnt get in. Yeah I was sad but I knew there will aways be another door or opprotunity to reach my goal. And you know what I went to a HS that had a great Art Dept and I got into SVA.

People who let themselves live with low stardards are people who dont think there's no other way, no offence guys. There's always another way to get what you want. You cant see it now because your strucked with the fact that you didnt enroll in the school you wanted but it will come to you. You just have to sit and think.

I'm not highly religious compare to others. Some might say I'm a borderline agonist some days. But maybe this is God's way of telling you that maybe that school isnt right for you. Maybe this will open your eyes to another school you didnt see or overlooked since your vision was so intuned with your first choice. Why were you gun ho about your first choice? Was it because of a certain art dept or because of an major? Maybe other colleges have the same programs/major.

Trust me. Finding a college to accept you is the easy part. Finding funds to pay for it, trying to find co-signers/borrowers for loans and scholarships and whatnot is the hardest part. Especially when your a incoming freshman. Dont even ask about transitioning into college life or Senior blues. This is miniscule.

Edit: Oh, and if you really want to feel better do this. Make sure your alone in your house and yell out the following loud and clear:

INSERT SCHOOL f$#@ YOU!!!!!!!!!

[RD!]

People who let themselves live with low stardards are people who dont think there's no other way, no offence guys. There's always another way to get what you want. You cant see it now because your strucked with the fact that you didnt enroll in the school you wanted but it will come to you. You just have to sit and think.Being someone who lives with and embraces low standards (except with spelling, tsk tsk man.) I take offense to this. Actualy I'm quite perplexed by it as well. I didn't enroll in Yale but... it will come to me? Because I mean... I wouldn't mind going to Yale.

Glad I neglected to enroll.

edit for Cody: SCCC here I come baby

[One Radical Dude]

I just recieved a rejection letter from the school around which I'd based all of my hopes and dreams for the past year.*sigh* :crying:

So has anyone else been through this? If so, how did you deal with it and dig yourself out?
C'est la vie. Rejections happen. You're gonna have plenty of them in life. You've gotta move forward, and you must look at other colleges/universities/schools that you would be interested in attending.

[Scorpio_G]

Being someone who lives with and embraces low standards (except with spelling, tsk tsk man.) I take offense to this. Actualy I'm quite perplexed by it as well. I didn't enroll in Yale but... it will come to me? Because I mean... I wouldn't mind going to Yale.

Glad I neglected to enroll.

edit for Cody: SCCC here I come baby
You totaly missread what I wrote (and btw unless I'm being graided on my spelling or I'm typing E-mails to people I'm really informal when it comes to the rest of the internet.)

Remember the saying when life gives you lemons make lemonaid. That means when certain parts of your life doesnt turn out exactly how you want them to be hence Phantasm's denial from her school. S/he's devistated but if s/he's sit and think other ways or paths of reaching his or her goal weather it means going to a community college and transfering to her first choice school or going to another college. You dont sit and mope wishing you were accepted into Yale you get up and figure out alternative means to go to college and acheieve your BA or whatever you want to do with your life.

If you think about it all colleges and universities teaches the same thing it's just the name. Humanities studios (for certain schools) and a few classes that's about your major and the majority of your time/credits in college is consumed with Humanities depending on your major. Yale might be a prestegious school and a lot of people enroll and a lot of people are denied but the people who were denied go on to different schools. Do you think all of them go into into tumoil every night that they werent accepted into Yale? Probably, during the first few days or months but talk to them a year or two latter and they would probably laugh about thoes days. I dont lose sleep because I wasnt accepted into LaGuardia? No. Infact, I make jokes about it. And believe it or not I've only met two people who went to that school in my deptment. One of them dropped out on her freshman year.

College is not about getting into prestegious schools. It's part of it but it's not the most important. Not even grades, unless if you going into grad school. It's about meeting people, creating contacts and NETWORKING. Without it your sucess rate AFTER college life is low even with that piece of paper that has YALE or SVA written on it. I know peope who got out of school half a decade ago and they still havent gotten a job that portrays their major because they havent networked.

Wow, this really got off the topic. Oh well.

[RD!]

College is not about getting into prestegious schools. It's part of it but it's not the most important. Not even grades, unless if you going into grad school. It's about meeting people, creating contacts and NETWORKING. Without it your sucess rate AFTER college life is low even with that piece of paper that has YALE or SVA written on it.So I'm missing the point about not having low standards. Because with low standards I could care less about which college I go to and how well I do in college and in the end I'm happy either way.

[PRdude]

I aimed low and saw no disappointment.

I do the same thing, but I always get accused of being pessimistic.

[Zubby]

I applied to several graduate schools, each had something I could benefit from (I didn't bother applying to places I wouldent want to go to-it's a waste of time and money). Anyway, I aimed high, and was rewarded with a bunch of rejection letters. Feeling somewhat dejected, I started putting a plan into place where I could take classes for a year then try again. Then I got my fifth and final letter, and news of acceptance into a very highly ranked art school.

I have two pieces of advice:
One, (and this is a little late for you) don't put all your eggs in one basket. Instead of putting all your hopes into one school, find several that can offer you different, but also appealing benefits.
Two, if it doesn't work out, have a contingency plan. Admissions people are capricious; and you can never be sure what their decisions will be. Don't let their rejection ruin things for you.

Networking can be important, but shoulden't be the main goal, depending on your field. I actually had disdain for people in grad school who were there purely to network (and my school has a very dedicated and supportive alumni network). I was in grad school to develop as an artist, that was my primary goal. While I did some networking, I was mainly holed up in my studio.

[Scorpio_G]

So I'm missing the point about not having low standards. Because with low standards I could care less about which college I go to and how well I do in college and in the end I'm happy either way.
Living with low standards means that you live your life underneath than what you should be. (Cant describe this well.) Its' like living life underneath an invisible line or doing things that is under the radar so to speek. Or living life under a rut, purpously. A lot of people, including me, did or do this in certain times in our lives and/or in certain situations and it's not bad. It becomes bad when we let low expectations rule our lives in everything. You need to push yourself or have a drive in something. You cannot possibly be happy if you surf your way thru college, graduate barely ('cause you have low standards in grades), and get a job, any job as long as you get a job you'll be happy. Unless if you were interested in something else.

When you say Low standards do you mean Low expectations?

There is such a thing called low expectations, high expectations, and Great Expectations by Charles Dickens.:sweat:

Having high or low expectations in life is unhealthy. People have expectations on many things in life. And yes there is a difference between Low expectations and Low standards:

http://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/expectation
http://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/standard

And now I must watch Neon Gennesis Evangelion. I missed this ep.

Oh, I'm not flaming you or yelling in any way were just having a friendly conversations. Are we? :anime:

Oh and BTW in my family I'm the one who's pessemistic. ^^;

[The Falcon]

only rejection i ever receive is from women. i used to get upset about it, but now i laugh at it based on their creativity level of telling me "no"

[Kury Wagner]

only rejection i ever receive is from women. i used to get upset about it, but now i laugh at it based on their creativity level of telling me "no"Maybe they're not saying no, in general, but rather they're out of breath and have no idea what they're saying to you. It's happened!


How do I deal with rejection? Not well.

[RogueFanKC]

I just recieved a rejection letter from the school around which I'd based all of my hopes and dreams for the past year.*sigh* :crying:

So has anyone else been through this? If so, how did you deal with it and dig yourself out?

Don't think this is the end of the world. Here, let me treat you to a cup of coffee; it always cheers me up along with a warm muffin or chocolate-chip cookie!

*hands cup of coffee and cookie*

Now, seriously, why not go to a local university with a high transfer rate and see if you can go to you dream school in your 3rd and 4th years? Keep in mind, the first two years of univeristy is pretty much general classes and you can easily fulfill them at a community college or local school with a smaller class size and more personal attention from the professor. It's also easier to get a better GPA.

Thus, when you finish all the classes at the community college / local university, then apply to transfer to your dream school, and you'll have another shot (and chances are, you would probably be likely to get in since it's a wee bit easier).

I've known close classmates in my days at UCI who transferred from Saddleback and IVC, and they had the comfort of small class sizes, strenuous curriculum, and high GPA marks when they transferred to UCI for their 3rd and 4th years, and it worked greatly in their favors since they saved so much money and really didn't put themselves in any disadvantage by doing that.

Hope you feel better soon. Keep your chin up. It's not the end, but rather, a new beginning. :)

[Deadman]

i am sorry you were rejected by the school. try another one that you like.

[Phantasm]

Don't think this is the end of the world. Here, let me treat you to a cup of coffee; it always cheers me up along with a warm muffin or chocolate-chip cookie!

*hands cup of coffee and cookie*

Now, seriously, why not go to a local university with a high transfer rate and see if you can go to you dream school in your 3rd and 4th years? Keep in mind, the first two years of univeristy is pretty much general classes and you can easily fulfill them at a community college or local school with a smaller class size and more personal attention from the professor. It's also easier to get a better GPA.

Thus, when you finish all the classes at the community college / local university, then apply to transfer to your dream school, and you'll have another shot (and chances are, you would probably be likely to get in since it's a wee bit easier).

I've known close classmates in my days at UCI who transferred from Saddleback and IVC, and they had the comfort of small class sizes, strenuous curriculum, and high GPA marks when they transferred to UCI for their 3rd and 4th years, and it worked greatly in their favors since they saved so much money and really didn't put themselves in any disadvantage by doing that.

Hope you feel better soon. Keep your chin up. It's not the end, but rather, a new beginning. :)

Yeah..I guess community college is my only option now. This was the only one I was actually considering going to. And it rejecting me was like a slap in the face. Teh sad part is I know so many people who got in but they would never consider going there. I would have gone!

But no. They chose to reject me!
:sad:

I spent all of yesterday throwing a little pity party for myself. I don't even want to go to school tommorow.:(

[90'sCartoonMan]

Teh sad part is I know so many people who got in but they would never consider going there. I would have gone!

But no. They chose to reject me!
:sad:

Three people from my graduating class got accepted to the college I wanted to go to. I was disgusted, mostly at myself. I got off to a somewhat rocky start in high school, but I made myself better, and by senior year, I was just as good as student as those other guys. Plus I had extra cirricular activities But I didn't get in. Didn't get in to two schools I wanted, actually. And it hurt, and I was depressed and moody and all "I'm not going to prom!" (even though I did).

It wasn't the end of the world because I knew it was a possibility. I let myself hope, but at the same time, I knew there was a chance I wouldn't get in. So I went to another school that accepted me. While there, I applied for this Creative Writing Concentration I wanted, but that rejected me too. I was upset with that, but I didn't let it get to me. I took a lot of the same classes I wanted and found a minor I liked.

You're still pretty young, and you have many paths ahead of you. So one isn't available, you take a different path. It's going to suck for a little bit, but you'll adjust, you'll learn more about what you want to do, and you'll find a new path.

[Beyond Batman]

Phantasm, what do you plan on majoring in? What have you planned as a career for yourself out of college? If you don't mind me asking, what college did you get rejected from?

[Terminatah]

Yeah..I guess community college is my only option now. This was the only one I was actually considering going to. And it rejecting me was like a slap in the face. Teh sad part is I know so many people who got in but they would never consider going there. I would have gone!

But no. They chose to reject me!
:sad:

I spent all of yesterday throwing a little pity party for myself. I don't even want to go to school tommorow.:(My senior year of high school, I applied to three colleges and was rejected from all of them. I almost didn't go anywhere, until I applied at the last minute to an in-state university that had rolling application and got in like a week before classes started.

One thing you can do, that a LOT of people do, is go to a local college (community or otherwise) for one or two years, while you're still getting your gen eds out of the way, and in the meantime, apply to transfer to another college you want to attend for when you start getting into classes more specific to your major. I hear this is usually a successful method. Plus, gen eds are kinda the same no matter where you go, and a local (and/or community) college will be much cheaper.

-Terminatah

[Phantasm]

Hey, thanks all so much for the considerate responses. I just learned that I got into a better school. So yeah...things have definitely brightened up for me. Thanks all for your support!*hugs*:anime:

[RogueFanKC]

Hey, thanks all so much for the considerate responses. I just learned that I got into a better school. So yeah...things have definitely brightened up for me. Thanks all for your support!*hugs*:anime:

Aw! We're happy for you! Looks like the coffee and chocolate-chip cookies helped!

Seriously, we're very happy for you. :anime:

[Scorpio_G]

Hey, thanks all so much for the considerate responses. I just learned that I got into a better school. So yeah...things have definitely brightened up for me. Thanks all for your support!*hugs*:anime:

That's freakin' awesome dude! Every gray cloud has it's silver lining!:D

Now you go kick ass in that college and and show your first choice school your better than them! :D

[90'sCartoonMan]

Hey, thanks all so much for the considerate responses. I just learned that I got into a better school. So yeah...things have definitely brightened up for me. Thanks all for your support!*hugs*:anime:

Hooray! Wow, a BETTER school? That's, well, that's even better! I hope next time something like this happens, you'll keep in mind that there's never any one, correct course for your future.

[candy17]

I'm sort of a realist (which is an optimist and a pessimist mixed together), which this amazing resilient streak, so when I get rejected or told no, I don't whine and bawl that the world hates me like everyone else here does (no offense).

I was never rejected from my dream school (I'm in it right now with one more year to complete before I graduate:D ), but I have been shut out of summer dream jobs and chances at internships for one reason or another. I'm disappointed at it, no question, but after a while, I just forget about it and go on to something else, knowing that I will bag it.

Besides, I'm a writer. Rejection comes with the job description, so I either have to have a thick skin about other people's opinions or find another career.

[Weatherman]

Hey, thanks all so much for the considerate responses. I just learned that I got into a better school. So yeah...things have definitely brightened up for me. Thanks all for your support!*hugs*:anime:

Where the heck did you get into, UPenn?:confused:

Congrats BTW.:)