Question

[Retro Gigi]

Is it cowardly that I broke up with my girlfriend through email?

I couldn't, really, do it any other way. She lives in Canada, and I had no phone number, or money to get there.
It wasn't a hateful email, either. I still loved her and I proposed that we could still be friends and all but she didn't want to have any of that, as she said I didn't even mention it, which is a lie.


So, what do you think? Was it cowardly, given that I couldn't do it any other way?
Granted, it's better to do these things face to face, but it wasn't possible, at all.

[Phantasm]

I wouldn't exactly say it was 'cowardly', just degrating to her and all the time you two must have spend together. At least you should have had the curtsy to remove her from your life in a proper manner. The fact that you broke up with her via e-mail must have been more hurtful to her than the break up itself.:sad:

[Daffy Dork]

You should have sent an E-mail asking for her number and saying it's important that you talk to her.

It's not that you were cowardly, you were probably just nervous...

[Rurouni Kenshin]

Yes, it is. Also if you actually care about her like you said then you could at least tell her in person. And as a note, the lets be friends line usually dosen't work, at least not in my case.

[Retro Gigi]

I wouldn't exactly say it was 'cowardly', just degrating to her and all the time you two must have spend together. At least you should have had the curtsy to remove her from your life in a proper manner. The fact that you broke up with her via e-mail must have been more hurtful to her than the break up itself.:sad: But, there was no other way.
I was going to try a long distant relationship with her, but it just didn't work out, so what was I suppose to do?
Ignore her?

It had to be done that way. I saw no other media outlet that could have helped.

I did spend a lot of time on the email. I complimented her. Said she was a very beautiful and intelligent woman. I never disrespected her in it. I do realize that the email was a bit "degrating" but it was my only choice.


Thanks for your reply, though. I appreciate it.

You should have sent an E-mail asking for her number and saying it's important that you talk to her.

It's not that you were cowardly, you were probably just nervous... I couldn't ask for her number because I had before, and she refused to give it to me, which should have sparked something right there. Stupid me.
I wasn't nervous at all. It was a well thought out email.

Also if you actually care about her like you said then you could at least tell her in person. She lives in Canada. I live in Texas. It's impossible as I have no money for a plane ticket back and forth.


However it may be, I am over her and just wanted to know if my action was what she said, cowardly. That word, as many of my friends would say, doesn't fit my personality at all.

I thank you all for your responses and those who come after, as well. :)

[Stuckey]

Given that you didn't even have her phone number, I'm assuming it wasn't that serious.

[Tienshin]

Given that you didn't even have her phone number, I'm assuming it wasn't that serious.

Gonna second this. Sounds like you were in a "e-relationship". I mean, she refused to give you her number. WTF is that all about?

[Kuja's Light]

I was uin an e-relationship that ended hurtfully for me, and it only added to my depression at some points through it in mind, and at the bitter end depsite that having happened aorund a year after the break up.

Anyways..Cowardly depends on which way I usppose, however she doesn't relaly deserve you if she acted that way after it.

[Retro Gigi]

Given that you didn't even have her phone number, I'm assuming it wasn't that serious. Gonna second this. Sounds like you were in a "e-relationship". I mean, she refused to give you her number. WTF is that all about? Ding Ding Ding!
I think her excuse for not giving me her number was because her dad was really strict and didn't like her dating.
Some crap like that.

Anyways..Cowardly depends on which way I usppose, however she doesn't relaly deserve you if she acted that way after it. My last two girlfriends before her, apparently, didn't deserve me, either, from what my friends have told me.

I'm starting to see a pattern, here. I'm a nice, caring guy who, always, attracts the ones that don't respect and appreciate me.
Maybe I should give up dating and live a monk life?

[Stuckey]

Well, then. If it was an internet relationship and she got upset that you broke it off via email then she's clearly a lunatic.

Not that it has anything at all to do with the topic, but when I was typing this response I got a REALLY strong sense of dejavu.

[Kuja's Light]

Just as long as you aren't a monk like Miroku. *Chuckles*

In all seriousness though, it seems to me she isn't ready for actual relationships yet, or made things seem all dramatic cause she was lieing to you.

[Retro Gigi]

Well, then. If it was an internet relationship and she got upset that you broke it off via email then she's clearly a lunatic.

Not that it has anything at all to do with the topic, but when I was typing this response I got a REALLY strong sense of dejavu. Dejavu is always on topic. :P
And I wouldn't say "lunatic". A better word would be "loony". (Get it? Haha? Funny! I'll stop now.)

Just as long as you aren't a monk like Miroku. *Chuckles*

In all seriousness though, it seems to me she isn't ready for actual relationships yet, or made things seem all dramatic cause she was lieing to you. Note to Self: Do not become a monk like Miroku. :D