My friend's mom died..

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My friend's mom died last night in her sleep. :sad: It's strange.. because today was my brother's graduation party and I found out just before people came so I didn't have time to really think it through. We haven't seen them for a very long time and me and my friend.. well.. I guess you could say we've grown apart since I started home schooling. I played soccer with her last year and I hated her because she was really catty/b*tchy and I could tell she talked about me behind my back. But the weird thing was, earlier we went to check on them and her brother answered the door. He came and before we even got through the doorway he gave me a huge hug, gave my mom and dad a huge hug and was sobbing. I felt so horrible. We went to see her dad and he hugged us all like we were all he had to hold on to. :crying: There were other people there but it was just horrible. My friend came out and the minute she saw me she came over and hugged me tight. :( Then her dad was telling my parents about what happened and she grabbed my hand and said 'I don't want to hear that crap again' and so we went to her room. Her boyfriend were there. He really p*ssed me off. He was acting like nothing in the world was wrong! I was like 'you f'ing jerk do you even get it!?'. But I felt so horrible because the whole time my friend was holding my hand. It's like... nothing bad in the past even mattered. The thing was, she was my friend and I had to be there for her, I wanted to be there for her. I think I cried the entire time, I even cried when we got home. Just seeing them like that tore me to pieces. I can't stand it, even now I feel empty, and when I think about them I start to cry. No one even knows why she died. She was fine yesterday. She was gardening the whole day, they watched a movie last night, but they couldn't wake her up in the morning. :crying:
I don't know what to do now. I just feel horrible, and every time I stop to think I want to cry. I want to do something to help them, but I don't know what I could possibly do. I guess I'll just be here for them.. I just wish there was more. I'm just.. really shocked. :( And confused. :sad: Any advice would be greatly appreciated...
Thanks for letting me rant...

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[Kurtman]

That's just terrible. It's a horrible and terrifying thought when someone so young dies in their sleep. I hope something makes you feel better.........

[True Noir]

Oh, I'm sorry about your friend's mom. :( It's always hard to cope with a death. Just forget about things that happened in the past with her and be their for her no matter what. Keep praying for them and help them as much as you can.

[HumanoidTyphoon]

Very sorry to hear that.
I want to do something to help them, but I don't know what I could possibly do. I guess I'll just be here for them.. I just wish there was more.I think that's the best thing you can do. Just let her know you're there during her time of grief.

[Kury Wagner]

Ohh, Ange, I'm so sorry hon. Accepting death is never easy, usually. HT's right, the best thing you can do is just make sure your friend knows you're there for her. Aw, I feel so bad for your friend now...

[Squisheee]

Angel, you're doing the right thing......just being there to listen to them. I remember when my dad two years ago in his sleep. Nobody I knew could even tell me anything that was that helpful. But my friend Bianca was always there, ready to listen and give me a hug. And that was the only thing I wanted, not some brilliant words or anything--just a friend to be there for me when I needed her.:( :( :( I hope that helped and tell your friend that my(our) sympathies are with her!

[Fone Bone]

I think it's a very good thing you are doing by letting bygones be bygones with your friend. She'll need you to be there for her. It's funny, all of the petty stupid crap we go through with our friends seems to matter jack when there is a serious crisis. If there's one thing about humanity that I love it's that fact.

[Natey]

You 2 must be great friends. I've have never felt a death of a loved one yet. I still havew all my grampas and grandmas. But If this would happen to my friend I would be near them a comfort them or if they want to be alone let them.

[Beguiled]

Thanks you guys.. for all the help/advice. It helps just to be able to talk about it. :sad:

[Kagetsu]

I know how you feel, a friends father died last year. Death has been all around me the past few years and I never know what to say or how to deal with someone elses grief. But the important part to them is just to "be there".

[ToOn~g@l]

How sad. :( The only advice I can give you is basically what everyone else said. Just be there for her and comfort her in this time of grief.

[Sailor Chibi Otaku]

So sad.. :(

:( :crying:

[Remy]

Its horrible that loved ones die. When a loved one dies its like walking up stairs in the dark. When you get to the top of the stairs you dont know their there and you are surprized when there isn't another step and you fall to the ground hard.

Im sorry for thier loss...

[Remy]

The last thing I said might not have made any sence. But what I was really trying to say is sorry about the death and I will pray for your friend in their time of need.

[Zach]

Death is bad, but we must realize that everyone will die at some point. I prefer not to linger on the horrors of death. Instead, I embrace the horror and bury any remaining sorrow. I am sorry about your friend's mom, may she find peace in the spirit world.