Need Some Confidence:(

[RogueMartian]

Okay, here's the deal. I've graduated from school and have been cursed doing tempwork for a while now. Tempwork pays pretty good, but it's life draining and sucks.

In addition to being a college graduate, I am also a black belt in taekwondo. Though I have never taught before I was offered a job to teach taekwondo once a week at a school for ages 3-8.

The problems for this job come from all sides. It's on mondays at 3pm, and it's a 10 month contract. So basically, i probably won't get hired for a full time job unless i'm willing to drop them, which I'd hate to do. The problem is that it's a great job. I like teaching kids, and I love taekwondo.

I hate having to turn down a job I know i'd love for a job I hate because a possible job might show up in the next 10 months that will be great. It's depressing me to no end, and I have to call them to turn it down cause I need a full time, not a part time, job.

I doubt anybody can give me any arguments I haven't already thought of to back up deciding not to take the job, but if anyone out there has any way to boost my confidence in turning down a good job, I'd like to hear it. :sad:

[Aquadementia]

How much have you talked to people about this?
And by people I mean people at your temp agency, HR department where you're working or any of the possibly numerous bosses you may have at any job.
A lot of people need some flexibility, especially if they have kids or something.
It may not be such a big deal to them.

What you have in your favor is a vary predictable schedule.
If you're working till 5 normally, you'll probably need to take off at 2:30, so that's only 2 1/2 hours you need to make up, that shouldn't be too hard.
Plus it's sort of a community service activity, they may look on that favorably even.

But I don't know what kind of job you have, or how strict they are.
Also, some companies totally treat temps like garbage.

I just hope you aren't giving up too easy.

[Weatherman]

Well, sometimes life just kinda sucks to matter wich way one looks at things. The teaching job would probably look amazing on a resume, but if it interferes with getting a real job in the first place, it aint of much use.:shrug:


I'm doing the temp thing myself right now around D.C. Who are ya working through?

[TimTwoFace]

I don't know what help I can be in boosting confidence, but I can fully relate to this. I'm going through a career change myself - I'm trying to move on from the "high school service industry" job and go forth towards a "career-oriented" job, instead. Undoubtedly, after plugging away enough, I'll have to make some tough decisions about choosing future jobs over others in the future - so I can only relate now.

What to choose, I don't know - whatever is financially sound AND makes you happy is likely the best thing for you. There are more important things than money. I mean, I've been at a gas station for five years now (the majority of which during school years), and while I know there were better jobs out there for me at the time (financially speaking), I also know that I wouldn't have been as happy.

Now, for me, I'm just looking for a job that includes both. :)

I hope that's of some help for you.

-Tim

[Outlander00]

Well... Based on what you want, I think it was a choice that had to be made. You made the right decision for you right now, even if it does hurt a little bit. It all comes down to what you feel whats best for you and you did that. :)

[Borg4of3]

You shouldn't look at this like "Either way, it sucks", because you really are in a win-win situation. Why be depressed if you can do no wrong? Either way, you gain from your decision, and both will afford you new opportunities in the future. Like a choice between two delicacies - And at least you've already made your choice so you're not starving. While it is a shame one opportunity is passing you by, you're leaving many more viable options open by taking your course of action. And, like Aquademtia said, they might be flexible and the Tae Kwon Doe job may still be an option down the line. Anyway you go here is filled with benefits - some just might take a bit longer to reap.

[guinaevere]

I'm with Borg4of3, you're doing okay over there. You may not have the job of your dreams right now, but you've got the college education. There are some of us who haven't been able to go to school, owing to life being fairly uncooperative from time to time. :sweat:

I admire the fact that you recognize that the teaching job can be very rewarding, if not necessarily monitarily.

But if you have truly sat down, meditated/prayed over it, weighed all pros/cons and have no conviction that passing on the part time teaching gig, then you're just going to have to be straight with the party who is offering you the position.

It does kinda stink, I've had to turn down positions before, and I'm always guilt ridden for the fact that the employer has invested time into finding who they thought was the right person for the job. But to give you a little more confidence (which is what you asked for), interviewing/applying for a job does not mean you agreed to accepting the position, if offered.

So again, be flat out honest. Thank you for the offer. I'm gratified you found my skills to be satisfactory. And while I know I'd surpass your expectations, I do need to secure a full-time career; accepting this teaching assignment would impede that ability.

That sorta thing.

You can do that, you RogueMartian, you. :D

[Master Moron]

I say you should be happy that you're getting job offers. I graduated in May and I STILL don't have a job. I've sent out a lot of resumes and had a few interviews, but so far, I haven't gotten hired. I'm about ready to give up. I think I'm going to go to graduate school so I can hopefully eventually get a good job, cause a college degree ain't cutting it.